Best Friend Close Friend causing Love rifts to Lovers

Hello Dear Readers of The Real Love Doctor Clinic. Today we will tackle a life experience of the Real Love doctor himself. so sit back and enjoy reading the post below today!

I have been asked one too many times to somehow share my life experiences around here so people can gaged my being the Real Love Doctor as either fake or somewhat credible enough. I must say I am stumped always and that I don't have a clue where to start talking. One day a girl mailed me and ask why not share an experience about having an opposite-sex close friend. She asks if it is safe or not? She also included that she is in a relationship and that her boyfriend is pissed off sometimes with this guy close friend of hers.

Hello dear love doctor,

can you site some of your experiences regarding 3rd parties or best friends scneario that threatens a relationship? i have a clkose guy friend in which i have been doing sweet things lately and my current boyfriend is so jealous that he orders me not to hang out with my best friend again.

i'll gladly listen to your explaination,

good day doc
love maris

Dear Maris, To answer that question of your regarding third parties and other members of the opposite sex which could be a potential hazard to our current love relationships, I will personally share you one of my experiences about it. Not that I only have one experienced about that situation, I do have a few, but I will only cite the most relevant one that will surely tackle our main concern for the day.

First I really don't believe in GIRL_BOY best friends or close friends relationships, why??? Simple because for me it is considered as a love relationship under control or in other words you both are semi-in love with each other. That's why the jealousy and insecurity of your other behalf regarding your so called "opposite sex" best friend or close friend.

Man and woman cannot be close friends at all. That is my definitive answer. Many times I am close with a girl, we either become kissing friends or any other physical type of attraction occurs. It's best that the closeness must not be that "close" anymore. Do you treat the same sex friends of yours like the opposite sex close friend of yours the same??? Most answers will be probably no. It's because these close/best friends of the opposite sex we have are just as special as the next lover that we may have.

So I guess you are keeping this guy around because you are attracted to him. My advice is if you really want to be happy with your relationship now it's best that you tell your close friend to slowly pull away before anything else developed into some weird and strange feelings.

Till next time the Love Doctor Signing out of the Love Clinic








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OMGosh Beautiful Girl going into my Pad

Hello dear readers of the Real Love Doctor's Blog, A long absence from the doctor eh?

not to worry even though I'm Busy I still replied to most of your emails dear fans.

and today the clinic once again opens from a dear guy who has a troubling yet funny love letter for us today. read on and be amazed at what is he up to now.

This is the Real Love Doctor coming in and helping out relationship problems.

The letter goes down bellow;

"ei mac,


long time no see in your clinic huh, love doctor lol.anyways i have read and followed some of the steps to date a girl from here, and this comming weekend a very beautiful and cute girl will be going into my place, what shall i do? i'm sacred as hell and i'm a newbie. any tips???


from,

decent guy but semi-kinky"


Hello there decent guy [but semi-kinky] I somewhat find that contradictingly funny, your name and all but first I would like to congratulate you on having a date and with a beautiful girl at that and straight into your pad. A big WOW for your achievement.

Now that you got the girl going to your place here's my advice and tip for you. This are the general 10 when having a woman in your house should be.


1. Since the girl agreed and trust you enough that she's even willing to spend time right there and then in your pad it's a good sign! Why? because she notices you and eventually started to like you and feel comfortable with you, so don't try to destroy that little established trust that you so faithfully earned.

2. Your going to spend a few hours with her so why not plan out what you want to do this week end now! It could either be a movie through top DVD's or a cooking spree and lot's of table talk.

3. If you prefer movies, then decide what to rent. girls are suckers for love related flicks or cute animal flicks. Just don't rent out animated stuffs or you will lose your manly appeal, also avoid slasher or teen bop flicks, they suck dude.

4. Prepare the place, set an atmosphere, clean it a little. Remember Grooming?

5. Put up and air freshener or something nice like scented candles.

6. unto your personality, don't be nervous be spontaneous enough and stay calm as much as possible.

7. Keep the lady entertain and when she allows it she might be touchy in a few hours or so and hugs will be there, but if it won't come don't force it. If you know your law, there is a term called rape.

8. Avoid long void silence, always talk, when watching a movie, comment in every nice scenes and tell stories.

9. Don't come into her too hard, you will regret it, be smooth and relax and she'll reply in a soft way.

10. Smile and act like the king of your place, this boost of confidence knowing you are in your territory will be sexy for the girl.



Well there you have it mate, enjoy the weekend and I hope you will be successful with this one, remember a happy relationships starts with communication and a lot of attention, so in the stage you are now I won't be surprised that anytime soon both you and this girl will be hitched.

Till next time, keep the letters pouring and enjoy the Real Love Doctor Clinic









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Lately i learned that her family is planning to marry her to a guy with their same race

Good day everyone,

Another segment for the Real love doctor on real love,life and relationships 101. Today I will focus my time on someone who calls himself ZERO. He got this big problem on his love life and things are looking pretty bleak as of late. let's read as the love clinic opens once again


"

Dear Love Doctor,

I like this girl, and we have been dating for such a long time now. Lately i learned that her family is planning to marry her to a guy with their same race, i know i might be out of place and all but the girl confides to me that she won't marry off with the guy, help me i'm confuse.

confuse, zero

"



The issue of racism and closely tied family friends circle has haunted people for generations and generations more to come. If the girls family has somehow made up their mind to have their daughter wed to the guy of their choice, then you my poor guy have a little thing to do left. I am not telling you to forcibly ran away with the girl as that will just worsen things, but in my experienced, that is probably the closest thing you can ever do to a hell bent parents of such close minded culture.

For one if we try and go by the books, I will simply say to you, okay go their house, present yourself and show them how you can be the fitting man for their daughter by simply selling out the best in you! And back this up by being the real man that you claimed to be. But that is simply not the case, as I say drastic times requires drastic measures.

I think you need to do the latter thing I suggested....

Till then as busy as always, the Real Love Doctor's Clinic is still open for your letters! Good day, Love doctor out








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Am I a bachelor at the Age of 28?

Hello my avid readers!

Welcome back for an Update on The Real Love Doctor On Real Love, Life and Relationships 101

Sorry for the delay in posting as I have been busy lately for my new JOB! Yes the Real Love Doctor is also having side-jobs on the mend to provide for the family. ^_^

When I was gone for a good 2 weeks The Love Doctor's Clinic is overwhelmed with only 3 mails? ONLY 3 mails!??? Come on guys keep those mails coming please!

For Now I got a guy who at a young age consider himself a bachelor! Read on his letter and my prescription to his Love Problems afterwards.

" Dear Doctor or shall I say Real Love Doc

good day to you sir, My name's Rigor Mortiz not a real name but kinda sort of a screen name i use in the blogosphere hehehe, and this may sound absurd to you but i think i iwll be going to be a bachelor soon, my age at the moment is 28, i dont have a gf and for a long while already about 2 years since my last girl friend and i am scared because all of my friends are married, please help me how to find a wife

with good regards avid reader Rigor Mortiz
"

Hello there to you Mr. Rigor Mortiz, I must say what a catchy name to have in the blogosphere eh?
Mr. Mortiz at your age of 28 years, I don't think you are a bachelor, Most westerners at this time may either be enjoying the prime years of their life by going to bars and enjoying on hitting as many cute women as they like without the "tying the knot" case in their mind. Most western culture men marry at the age of 30-40 years old and some say they even feel their sexiest and most productive years of their life at the age of 32! So with these stats I'm only guessing you are an Asian right? In Asia Most men Marry at the tender [I say Tender because of my love of red meat! LOL] age of 22-26, and many men are felt left out when they reach 30 if they are not yet married, most especially in South East Asia. If you really feel lonely at times and really have the urge to have a family ASAP then follow my tips on my previous post and discussions and I will provide you with a good head start on where to find a unique and loyal wife! By your age level WOMEN are out numbering MEN by a ratio of 10:1 and available and still single! So the odds are on your side, what you only need is to find that near perfect woman, but how?



WHERE TO FIND THOSE LOVING, CARING and LOYAL WIFE [in short a n almost perfect partner]

1. You have to at least know her! -old long lost beautiful neighbors- will probably do the trick here, look back or look up your old long lost neighbors that your feel attracted to long ago but never get the chance to have a romantic relationship with. These way you already know her ways and lifestyle and previously living beside houses together give you a good preview to what kind of woman she is. So choose wisely and seek those that are still available


2. You have to at least know her! again -old long lost beautiful classmates- yep those pretty classmates and pretty girls in your school which you happen to know by default but never get the chance to be romantically involve with, these time you get a pretty clear view on what kind of women these girls are so you can choose which one will suit you, Find the ones you like, hit the phone and try to search using your old buddies and do your magic.

3. You have to at least know her! again again -old long lost beautiful officemates- another good start of finding a good wife is to look for again of your long lost office mates which you set your eyes on, go ahead go back to that old work place and ask around the previous people that you know there to have an info to where this girl is now

4. And lastly Family advertisements! -yep it may sound funny but a family member form a not so distant stem of your family might just have someone in mind for you to date, or they might at least show an ad of your personality and type to one of their friends, pursue this kind of getting to know, when it comes from the family preference, usually it means a good thing!

There you have it, coupled with a great self confidence and a hefty time of searching you will soon be dating again in no time! And better yet with women that you are familiar of and with the same age range you have better your odds in finding a real nice partner for life. Good luck to you and Happy hunting!

The real love doctor signing out of the love clinic. till next time.










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Dear Love Doctor, How many women have you dated?

Dear Love Doctor, How many women have you dated?

Today we will read a westerner comment on the real love doctor. It's funny how many odd letters I Get lately ranging from how to pick up women and how to score with them, even into how to seduce married men, but please all my efforts here folks are focus on finding you a healthy relationship, love and a happy life. So please do control the parental guidance value of your letters.

take the doctor's advice!

Now to our segment- Ask the Real Love Doctor and the Real Love Doctor Answers!

Dear Love Doctor,

Hello good day doc, been an avid fan now for a month. Just want to know if how many women have you approached and dated using your strategies, and are you for real? yeah i find it here funny. LOL


brent, Florida USA



Hello brent, it's been a while since your love doctor have returned from a family trip to the outskirts of town. The busy life has left me posting on this blog only twice last week. Anyways to answer your inquiries I will go straight to the point. Yep I have approached countless women in my lifetime, and I must say the early years were a little bit distressing as the young love doctor is still struggling with his self confidence, it takes years to master the art of being the "MAN". Not long as since 5 years ago, I have found that I have connected with a lot of women on a casual basis. I dated easily and grab their attention with the skills I am trying to promote to you guys.

The women I have dated ranges from the students in colleges to the executives of firms and even to the denim sales lady. I must admit that I have a pretty liking to the women in the sales department, especially the pants section.

You know it takes time to master stuffs about approaching women, and I cannot guarantee a 100 percent success rate, but this I can assure you that if you follow closely my prescriptions, then you will have the better chance of let's say 90% and above to finding a real happy relationships.

Keep the letters pouring in okay?

Thanks you very much, see you in a day or two

Real love doctor out.

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Help my Affair with a married guy goes astray! Ask the Real love doctor and the love doctor answers

Help my Affair with a married guy goes astray! Ask the Real love doctor and the love doctor answers

Hello readers and friends, another good day for Ask the real love doctor and the love doctor answer segment isn't it? So to kick start our weekly routine let me introduce to you a good reader of ours who has been online and reading our lovely site since the first week of our existence. Let's all hide her in the name of Jenny, and Jenny has this email which I would like to give light on today:

the deadly kiss of death

" dear love doctor;

gud day, how's things going? i would like 2 ask you sumthing today that has been bothering me for a long time now. i have a relationship with a married man, i know that it is not right, but i am also not that religious so i just go with my feelings for him, he is my superbisor at our office, we have been on for more than two years, and after all those years he is thinking on breaking up with me 2 be with his family. i am broken hearted, please advice me o how to forget him. thanks will be emailing you soon, thank you very much love doctor

jenny"


Hello Jenny. To tell you something about Jenny, she is a 22 year old Filipina and currently working in a small office in Manila. She has emailed me 4x now and this time after much plea, I was able to convince her to have her letter to me be put in public so I can answer them and help many.

To answer your question ms.Jenny, I will gave you two points first okay?

Point

1. Trying to win a married person love is wrong! which ever you look at it, in society norms, in religion [even if you are not that religious] in the law and in the eyes of the family of that person. I think you are now not blinded to the fact that even you think that what you two just did is really wrong.

2. At these kind of illegal relationships, it is always the women that suffers, the wife and the mistress, and most of the time the men always came out like champions achieving trophies.


So with these two points I put out I hope you are brought back into reality and not to be put into the same dark situation that you are in now. Just be prepared because a lot of secrets from the past seems and most often always do come back to haunt you in the near future. You are still young. I know you will meet someone in the near future that will surely love and take good care of you in a nice loving relationship. For now to avoid him I will give you some tips.

no point in arguing

1. Try to find a job that will put you far away from him, by this what I mean is, the distant you are with him, the faster you will forget, also try not to resign from your work if your next job is still not secure.

2. Be busy with daily activities or stuff that will eat up most of your time- this is good practice if you are trying to forget someone or curing a heart ache - just avoid over eating and watch out for over dating! A clean fun activity will do like going back to your old town for a breather or a short vacation.

3. Try to heal the wound in your heart and not just by forcing your self to new man, the key here is to wait.


Got the 3 tips? Well Just like anything else I can only give out advices, the one who will be doing the actions is you. I hope ladies will learn from endless shocking and always ending up losing stories of countless women falling in love with married men and ending up with the wrong relationship partners. There is someone for everyone, keep that in mind, and that his wife is that someone for him and you just can't share.


Till next time for our updates, be sure to tune in for tips, advices and anything in general about Real Love, life and relationships 101 with your host The real love doctor Mac!

Peace.

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How to start a conversation- Ask The love Doctor Mac and Love doctor Mac Answers!

How to start a conversation- Ask The love Doctor Mac and Love doctor Mac Answers!

Hello and Good day to all my avid readers, The love doctor is getting much love on our column and segments here at the Love, Life and Relationship blogs most noted is the Ask Doctor Mac and Doctor Mac answers! So far I got an overwhelming pour of letters to just about everywhere through emails, comments and even text messages. Nice very nice indeed. So keep em letters and inquiries coming. The Love Doctor is more happy to help!


Anonymous said...

ei there, can you teach us some approach or how to start a convo to some random cute/attractive/prospect girl? Not pick up line ah. For example in a PUV, MRT or waiting for the bus.

-thanks

August 18, 2007 9:50 PM


So we have someone here who is a bit shy in the outside but in the inside is burning with passion to start a conversation with a girl he mets at random places. To start with, I hope you did a good job and have read my grooming tips early on my previous post! if not you can read it again here---->GROOMING!

I can offer some tips below, but the whole entire process still depends on the way you handle yourself, and of course the degree of interest you can muster out of the girl you have set your targets on. For more on women body languages just stay tune and we will surely discuss it one of these days in our Love, life and relationships segments in the coming days.

key is smile!

general tips:

1. be decent enough! - no girl at her right mind will talk to a dirty dressed and sex maniac looking guy! so always dress well and be clean looking, you will never know when or where you might see the girl of your dreams maybe, she may be walking around your corner one of these days!

2. sport that killer smile! - when I say killer smile I don't mean a smile that will knock her off the train! just smile naturally and avoid the plastic looking ones like you see at the faces of celebrities. Be genuine enough and always practice that "U" shaped lips and face in front of a mirror. Better yet avoid thinking LUSTFUL things in your head to avoid that dreadful "rapist smile" off your face! Be natural and smile at happy thoughts like you are going to date her!

3. killer punch lines! - this may sound too cheesy and some may tell you they won't work, but I can vouch for you that they do! words like "Hey your body is a wonderland, and I'll change my name to Alice!" and "I won't buy you a drink ever, because you're a stranger and I don't buy drinks to strangers" works my friend! These punch lines when delivered well will make the girl smile and will loosen up the tension between the two of you. Normally we get nervous in approaching someone, also if the girl knew you are going to approach her, she too will be tense and nervous and most of time won't know what to do next. Punch lines erases all of that. Think of it as a great title on a silly website, it gets you to read the content doesn't it? I will provide some killer punchlines that have worked for me through the years, with them came the technique and proper executions that I will soon tell all of you my avid readers of this Love, Life and relationship blog! Stay tune in future posts!

4. Be fluid! - once you and the girl exchanges smile then it's time to show her the deeper you. Act and be intelligent, if you're not that intelligent at least cover it with wittiness! Talk about relevant topics usually ranging from the place that you met. "Boy is today hot! I have showered twice this morning and I still feel icky!" or "It took me an hour the last time I tried picking a taxi in this spot, silly me, I didn't notice the preying traffic enforcer a few meters behind my back" Conversation like this make things go fluid and at ease.



So there you have it the early spot on stuff to do to get the girl talking back to you. Remember there are many factors regarding this topic, but I will provide infos as soon as I can, also note that I didn't include how to get the girls number or give away your number right? This issue is a different story by itself and I will focus on it soon in a future post. So for now, practice practice!

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I need space! Ask the Love Doctor/ Love Doctor Mac answers! 2

Ask the Love Doctor/ Love Doctor Mac answers!

Another fine day to all of you! We're back with our new letter for the week. I choose this letter out of about 6 because I was encouraging folks to comment and join in the discussions, So this guy did just that! and because He did He will get Love, Life and Relationships 101 tips from the Love Doc. Here's his letter:

"got a big problem hir guyz just dont know what 2 do anymore im just starting to dislike my girl im just tired of her trips and attitude but damn i just cant leave her it fells like im in hell w/o her my best budd tells me that this the point were in we both need space but we both cant give it to each other for an unknown reason hope you could give some tips i have many more to say.... till next time - LuNaTiV_0829"

Hello there LunaTiv, Firstly I would like to welcome you in here and thank you so much for the courage to come out in the open and tell the Love Doctor about your relationship problems. I will waste no time in giving you a sound advice for today okay? But the results is still really up for you to achieve. So with out further ado some tips from your in-house Love Doctor!

not talking?

Suggestions:

1.Communicate!- Early part of your relationship with your girl I'm betting that both of you were heavy chatters right? Talking about each others life, experiences and mainly topics to get to know each other the better. Why not do it all over again? This time around talk about future plans or new found interests between the both of you. The chain in a good relationship is good over all communication! So take time, have a seat in a park or in a place where both of you will share a minimum of an hour a day to just talk! Talk a lot. I do this too with my girl, we chat on coffee and we end up laughing our ass off always and I always look forward to her nice coffee making skills in the morning and in the afternoon. For something new, never take the moment conversation out of the coffee talk, What I mean is, what is it that you and her talking for that talk moment stays during that time and never strays to another time of day or the next hours after your chatter with her. We always talk about politics and stuff in the news for example, then after the coffee talk, we never talk about it again till the next time we sit and have coffee again!


2.Bond like glue!- Most often times relationships and love goes stale because the lack of bonding, most times too we just can't seem to take the other partner's trips or likes as what you said in your letter... "im just starting to dislike my girl im just tired of her trips and attitude"... this comment came from someone who never bonded with his/her partner. The stuff that binds us in a good relationship is love right? But if Love goes wrong and boring the foundation or "glue" will not be strong to keep things in tack. That is why a good bonding trip should happen. First talk to each other and plan a certain activity that the 2 of you will surely enjoy! Most women like to see nature or travel to places. So if you can afford a trip around Asia go on travel, [visit here for an Asian Travel Guide!] or better yet have a cheap adventure and drive around the next town and see places you too have never been. The misadventures and the bondness these trips can bring will do wonders for the relationships and it will save it! Remember the key here is to have an activity that both of you enjoy, a guarantee success of good lovers bonding in a happy event is what I promise you if you will be able to pull this one off.


So before you decide on harsh decisions and that dreadful "NEED SPACE" excuse, why not try the 2 tips I did. I am hoping that my 2 easy tips will save your lost interest to your girl, remember it was you the guy who came into the life of your girlfriends, bother the living hell out of them and it is not just right to leave them just then and there, make an effort to be in love with her again just like the effort you did a while ago in making her love you back!

P.S.

"we both cant give it to each other for an unknown reason hope you could give some tips i have many more to say"

Dude I'm no psychic, just tell me the whole thing and we will discuss it here okay?

goodluck!



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Ask Dr.Mac and the Love Doc answers! first letter

Hello and Welcome to our first ever segment of Ask Dr.Mac and the Love Doc answers!

And for our early bird I have received a comment post with a letter in it in just 2 days after this sites' been up. Talk about fast, and so he so unanimously deserves to be my first ever letter sender and he will receive first hand the answer to his queries.
You too can join and be a part of the discussions by commenting on the Love advices segments. We are going to answer 2-3 letters a week so if I receive a bundle, it means that the line to the Doc's office will be long and your queries will have to wait.

For a free "based on real life" no kidding professional like advices, tips and Love topics, Just ask the Love Doctor, Doctor Coolmac No P.H.D. Mail me or indicate in a comment a quoted letter, then go get a number in the front desk and wait for your number to be called. ^_^.

The email is coolmacpaul@yahoo.com

And now to our patient:

let's just call him by name Junior. This letter is by no way edited what so ever to show you I never sugar coat stuff in my clinic, if times do arise to provide clarification to your letters and stuff, I will do so by putting the translation, correction and clarification inside a brace comment [ edited stuff here ] so still your stuff will be left unedited and your creative way of expressing yourself still intact!

Good day love doctor,

I have this crush for such a long time now.
Since i was committed back then, i dont nurse the feeling that i think im falling for her.
When i went to a get together last night, to my surprise she was there.
Its actually my/our first time to meet in a get together/drinking session
so i was a bit hesitant to make a move.
I dont want to be like arrogant and cocky in her eyes since its just our first time.
I didnt ask for her cell number w/c i could have done coz i can remember her
saying, "at last somebody texted me".
From that i could have simply as for her number but again, [could you prolly mean "ASK"?]
i dont want to be quick. Also shes telling her friends that she wants to eat this and that,
i could have accompany her to eat but then again i dont want to be quick again.

My main concern here is im having doubts that ill pass on her standards.
She got brains and beauty. I mean, she a teacher.
I dont know if i can coupe up with her "intellectuality" [coping a feel? don't be a perv. oops you meant to say compete there eh mate?]
and i dont want to act smart and just be plain stupid in the end.

Any tips on how to break those barriers?

Hope you can help me.
Jr.

"shyness the only barrier to shagness"

Well let's break your letter into pieces to slowly grasp what your trying to visualize me and our audience here, then we will put everything together for you and show you some light on the subject of LOVE and DATING -_-

Good day love doctor,

I have this crush for such a long time now.
Since i was committed back then, i dont nurse the feeling that i think im falling for her.

A crush is a crush, commitment is a different thing. You don't need to nurse a crush feeling because to tell you the basic thing, you just like the girl. She falls into your "attractive" category so no problem there. It's pretty normal to have people of the opposite sex as our "crush, fantasy or attracted to". Yeah really, it's not cheating nor immoral. It's a basic human feeling.


When i went to a get together last night, to my surprise she was there.
Its actually my/our first time to meet in a get together/drinking session
so i was a bit hesitant to make a move.

Many believe in destiny, and it's funny how timing can play a major part in some people lives, but most of the time people just over react. So what if you saw her there? or She bumped into you in a train? or if you and her suddenly showed up in a work interview? The truth is we all live in planet earth, and earth, although a gigantic piece of a planet houses all humans, the possibility of meeting someone we knew somewhere, some place and sometime is not ZERO! unless if she lives in Mars. The big problem is in the last part of your dissected letter,

so i was a bit hesitant to make a move.

Why? Don't you want to get to talk to her again after all these time? Why were you so hesitant? To make yourself feel all so confident again you resort to the "destiny" trick, the " oh we finally met again after such a long time crap!" Next time, when it comes to this so called "chances" we as MEN must not hesitate. I will explain the importance of taking things into your hand in future posts of mine, but for now if you consider yourself a MAN, don't hesitate! Always GO FOR IT, GO FOR THE KILL! ehem I mean GO FOR THE GOAL! Losers hesitate, Winners never wait!


I dont want to be like arrogant and cocky in her eyes since its just our first time.
I didnt ask for her cell number w/c i could have done coz i can remember her
saying, "at last somebody texted me".

Now this is confusing, if you mean to say that this is your first time to be close to her in a conversation type of way, then you won't look arrogant and cocky! but if this is the second or the many times she have seen you in a lifetime, then maybe not talking to her makes you arrogant and cocky! To all MEN reading this, the notion that girls think that a guy that approaches women with confidence and style is purely A MYTH. When women say "Wow you're so cocky!" these are defensive measures and can swing both ways. Women when approached by a guy can only think of 2 things she can either have a good thought or a bad thought. So when she say you're cocky or act like you are some fresh, cocky and overconfident dude, she can only be thinking 2 things The good = if you fall for this, then you're not man enough" and the bad = "My God what a jerk!". The latter only applies to real jerks [ see the MV of Pretty Fly for a White Guy ] and from the way I read you Junior I hope you don't fall into that category, Women make tests to see if the men in front of them is really that MANLY enough to be attractive, I will explain more about this in future posts, for now all you need to know is you won't look arrogant and cocky if you approach your crush.

I didnt ask for her cell number w/c i could have done coz i can remember her
saying, "at last somebody texted me".
From that i could have simply as for her number but again,
i dont want to be quick. Also shes telling her friends that she wants to eat this and that,
i could have accompany her to eat but then again i dont want to be quick again.

All these assumptions and confusions are a direct results from what I said previously. All your questions and assumptions can be summarized into one whole sentence: "WHY OH WHY DIDN'T I APPROACH HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE.??? [insert regret, regret regret here and more regrets here"]



My main concern here is im having doubts that ill pass on her standards.
She got brains and beauty. I mean, she a teacher.
I dont know if i can coupe up with her "intellectuality" [coping a feel? don't be a perv. oops you meant to say compete there eh mate?]
and i dont want to act smart and just be plain stupid in the end.

Any tips on how to break those barriers?

Hope you can help me.


Now I find this part really funny and sorry if I had to laugh out hard at them Junior, but I guess it's the only way to show you the hard truth and hard facts of the Society today.


My main concern here is im having doubts that ill pass on her standards.

Well you won't pass anyway if you won't take her test, and the way to fill up for the entrance exams is to go talk to her period.

She got brains and beauty. I mean, she a teacher.

Don't tell me you got no brains? You an alien? of course not, SO what if she's a professional? there are some out there who married a model/actress/millionaire and they are just plain guys or worse yet, sleazy bum holes of society. This ain't an excuse man.

I dont know if i can coupe up with her "intellectuality"
and i dont want to act smart and just be plain stupid in the end.

This is no time to compare GPA's and SAT's, this is life, in life brain will mostly get you on top but staying on top takes more that that, if you think negatively always then there will be less hope for you, A MAN is a man of confidence and HE WON'T show his weakness ever. If you think she is more intelligent than you, then it's time to show her that you're wiser and streetsmarter than her. Or you can share your life's adventure which can peak her interest at you. It's all about getting her to talk with you. Your goal here is to get her to talk to you, and not by the phone or by texting, But real face to face chat. I will provide tips on this later.


Any tips on how to break those barriers?

Hope you can help me.


I do have tips and it will follow on the next segments to come here in our site so you better be on your toes and check on here always

And I can only do so much to help you, but everything is still in your hands and how you handle the next situations to come.

For better help I will give you some sample advice so you will gain confidence in approaching a girl.

get her to talk to you

1. Look Good Feel Good

Groom your self, read my grooming posts, then practice at a mirror the way you talk, walk and interact. If you have time watch some James Bond films and copy the way Mr. Bond handles himself when talking to women.

2. Walk the walk

A real man walks with confidence, no slouching and crouching, not so fast, not so slow. Learn it! Relax.

3. Talk the talk

A real man talk with confidence, not so fast, not so slow, not so loud and absolutely not so soft! Also talking comes with eye to eye contact and no cleavage peeking for crying out loud.

4. Mannerisms and gestures

A real man is not careless but takes calculated/simulated/fully automated and confident moves. The man with the right moves will magnetize chics in a snap of a finger. The best example I can show you is James Bond and the worse can be The Hunchback of Notre Dam. Borat seems to be getting there but Boy George is what to avoid in copying good gestures and mannerisms.

5. Lastly Everything is believable

A real man looks like HE CAN BE TRUSTED! and not like a con-artist or someone who will rape a girl due to his super confidence. In other words HE WON'T APPEAR FAKE AT ALL. This takes practice mind you, so what are you waiting for, practice them all now.



And once you got the hang of it, try approaching your friends with your newly found confidence, they will be the first to notice your change, then try approaching and talking to someone you knew but never get the chance to be close. Any age will do. Any family member or close relative that you haven't got the chance to talk or interact with will be great practice.

Remember your first step is confidence and self-esteem.

Here's an additional tip, Women always notices the men's height first, so if you are tall then you are already above the rest, if not then you will have to work on the second thing they notice about us and that's our gestures/mannerisms. I will work on the psychology of the women's mind as well as the men's mind in the future posts.
For what i have read from your letter Junior it looks like you haven't made any of the two above. As we put our selves on sale for the rest of the world those two stuff is our marketing slogans and advertisements.

Hope some of my comments here will help you gain confidence as this is the only stuff customizable and can be improved through practice. Your face and Height and body built requires much hardwork and operations to change but your confidence is just improveable in 2 weeks minimum in my "experience"


Till next time goodluck!




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