The Real Love Doctor Talks about planning your Valentine Date

The Real Love Doctor Talks about planning your Valentine Date

The Real Love Doctor Welcomes you all back for another session in our love clinic. Last time around we talked about how to effectively write an effective love letter for both man and woman, and boy follow emails poured in like crazy, okay well just about two mails. Hehe. They were all asking for the same thing though, one big question when valentines is just around the corner in just a couple of more weeks to be exact, they were asking how to have a perfect valentines date. Well that is just what the real love doctor Mac is all about. I am here as your friendly neighborhood Love Doctor and I will give out the best advices for you to make your partner happy, and make your very own experience in this year's valentine a successful and memorable one.





Steps to take to prepare for a valentine date:


1. Plan ahead

Be it with months time preparation or now that it's just a couple of weeks ahead, Valentines needs a rough draft or a few imagination to go along. Ask yourself these few questions. Will I have a budget to spend when the date comes? What are her favorite restaurants? Can I afford to take her there? What are my alternatives? Gifts? How many hours will we spend outside? Movies? Something outrageous and out of this world? Will I be going according to her preference? My preference? Compensated preferences?

2. Gifts are Important

As a gentleman make it always a great hobby to offer your woman or woman to be gifts, women are suckers for gifts and usually feel special when you hand this stuff to them. Make the gift something she can use often, that way she can remember you every time she use your gift. Well think of something fast now.

3. Make Reservations

Always make it a habit to scout your place to hang out with, if good take the contact numbers of that place and call up weeks prior to the Valentine Event. This way you can avoid rush ups and competition with other couples dating during the same time of the holiday.

4. I go for a letter rather than flowers, but girls have a world different than our own

In other words, be unique. Uniqueness earns points to a girls heart, if chocolates are her craze give only a few, a simple flower and not a bouquet can be romantic, but bear in mind that a million men out there also will buy flowers, do you want to be with the majority too? Originality will bring out the best of you.

5. Lastly, treat her well and make her a princess even for the day only

Give in to her wishes and make this day special to her and for you to. If you got this mind set right from the start then I can guarantee you that you will have one of the most special day ever.

Have a blast the both of you, and I will be writing a few articles still before Valentines, So make plans now, write them up to make you remember them and start saving for that day, In my count valentines day prices are always bloated up to take advantage of couples celebrating the said event, so take this 5 steps for a successful and wonderful day.

Till next time, The Real Love doctor signing out of the love clinic. Feel free to mail me all your love problems and love inquiries on our new email ad blogger05@hotmail.com

Till next time Love Doctor is out

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How to Properly Prepare for a Date [ yeah for noobs and virgins ] VERY EFFECTIVE TECHNIQUE

1.Do some homework. In the days before a date, take time out to catch up with current events and hot topics. These are great conversation starters and you will be able to impress your date with your knowledge. Try to remember as much as you can about previous conversations together so you can follow up on them. Have a couple of funny stories or conversation pieces up your sleeve in case you need them.

2.Start looking and feeling good in advance. Set time aside for exercise in the days before the date, whether it's yoga or push ups. Eat well and get plenty of sleep.

3.Pick your clothes early. You should have several outfits laid out before the day of the date. This way you won't have any last minute panics when you realize you have a spaghetti stain down your favourite shirt. Plus, it will allow you to try on a few different looks on the day of the date and see which one fits your mood most comfortably at the time.

4.Clean up on the day of the date. Take a nice, long shower or bath. Ensure you have clean hair and nails. You should smell good, but not overpowering. Avoid heavy perfumes and aftershaves, especially if your date could be allergic. Ladies, go easy when applying make-up and aim for a natural but groomed look. If things go well he will eventually see you without make-up - and you will want him to recognize you at that point. Shortly before leaving for your date, floss and brush your teeth thoroughly.

5.Think positively. You're going out to enjoy yourself, after all. Don't start worrying about what disasters could happen, because that way they are far more likely to. If you are getting nervous, call a good friend, watch your favourite comedy show or listen to upbeat music. Loosen up. Focus on having fun and you inevitably will.

6.Be punctual. Give yourself plenty of time to get to your rendezvous. Keeping your date waiting will start things off on the wrong foot.

TIPS
* Relax, be yourself, and be confident. More specifically, in addition to "being confident," you should "know your success" (success breeds confidence). Instead of "being yourself," try "being your best self".
* Sometimes even with the best preparation, your date might turn out awful. You may wish to have a "back out plan" in case this happens. Find a good friend you can call and then he/she can call you back in a few minutes so you can say you have some sort of crisis you need to attend to. You could also try being an honest person and say that you don't think it's working out, and that you need to leave early. Be prepared to contribute to the date and excuse yourself.
* Bring a condom. Whether you plan to use it or not, it is better to be prepared than to end up with responsibilities you didn't want. But, remember that you don't have to have sex.

Warnings and cautions
* Never put yourself in a compromising situation--most people are trustworthy, but "date rape" is unfortunately a real occurrence. Always have a first date in a public setting (restaurant, movie, club, mall, etc.) Only accept drinks served from a bottle or can opened by you or in front of you, or by a third party (like a bartender). Unfortunately, there are drugs ("date rape drugs") that can be added to ANY drink without any noticeable difference in taste. Some people use these drugs to put women (and sometimes men) in precarious situations. If you turn away from your drink, get into the habit of covering it with your hand, as it only takes a second to slip something into a drink. If you are suspicious, get a new drink.
* If you feel something's wrong, trust your instincts and politely but firmly end the date.
* Be sure to always have a cell phone and cash for a cab so that you never feel you have to rely on your date for a ride home.
* Always be careful about alcoholic intake.
* Don't Do Drugs









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How to Properly french kiss someone

Hello dear Readers of the Real Love Doctor's clinic, today the Love Doctor will continue to give tips and know how's about Love and the art of body language in presenting one's love for another. Today as I checked on the last time in most of my emails, I have learned that a lot of those of you out there were asking on how to hug properly, when is the time for a great holding hands and even 2 letters on how to kiss correctly a girl. As I teared my self in laughing upon reading such things, I came up with a standard way of kissing passionately instructions just for you to follow. enjoy

Introduction To the ART OF FRENCH KISSING

French kissing is similar to another French invention: Champagne. A little bit will make you giddy but too much can lead to trouble. Whether you're studying up before a first date or simply curious, here are some French kissing techniques for anyone looking to learn how to French kiss.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Things You'll Need

• Breath Mints

Steps

1

Step One

Remember that French kissing can quickly unhinge passions. Start with gentle pecks and tongue-free kisses as you get to know someone.

2

Step Two

When you're ready to French kiss, lean toward your date with your head tilted slightly to avoid bumping noses. Men may wrap their arms around a date's waist; women may wrap their arms around a date's neck.

3

Step Three

Make eye contact as you lean toward one another but close your eyes as the lips meet. Inadvertent eye-contact mid-kiss can be quite awkward.

4

Step Four

As you lean in for the kiss, have your lips parted ever so slightly and inhale through your mouth to heighten the senses and to avoid breathing on your date.

5

Step Five

Allow your lips to brush against each others to create light, feathery kisses. Keep the tongue in your mouth initially.

6

Step Six

As the kiss warms up, allow your tongue to flicker onto your date's lips. Don't let your tongue linger--keep the flickers quick and gentle.

7

Step Seven

If your date responds in kind, let your tongue extend back toward his or her tongue. Keep the movement light and gentle--tongue wrestling is a no-no.

8

Step Eight

Breathe through your nose as your tongues touch playfully and sensually.

9

Step Nine

Lose yourself in the moment: give complete attention to the kiss. If your mind is on anything else, you're missing out on the full experience.

10

Step Ten

End the kiss. French kissing can get messy if continued without breathers. Take time to nuzzle necks, nibble ears or whisper sweet nothings before diving in for another kiss.

Tips & Warnings

• Fresh breath is essential. Avoid smelly foods (garlic, brie cheese, corn chips, coffee) beforehand. Freshen up with a mint or gum, making sure to dispose of the gum before kissing.
• Some people find it helpful to practice French kissing on ice cream. It's a chilly but effective way to practice tongue flickers.
• Read your date's body language to ensure a French kiss would be welcomed. Holding hands and gentle brush-ups during the date are good signs.
• There is no single right way to French kiss. Kissing is as individual as the people doing it. The most important thing is to be true to yourself, your date and the moment.
• French kissing can quickly unleash passions. Know your limits beforehand and be prepared to put the other person on hold when you reach them.
• French kissing improves with practice. Don't be dismayed if your first time French kiss fails to ignite fireworks. Practice makes perfect.
• Don't shove your whole tongue in the other person's mouth, it's not a pleasant experience.

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How to Handle Guys Hitting on your Girl!

5 ways to handle Guys hitting on your girl

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Handy Dandy tips I found which can be beneficial to the Real Love Doctors Clinic

If your are one of the many lucky men that has a girlfriend or wife that attracts a lot of attention from your male peers, you know how annoying those peers can be. Especially when you leave to go to the bathroom or she leaves your immediate side, these guys swarm in like bees to honey. For some guys this represents reason to stay out the bar or club scene with you girl but there are ways to handle these situations and have a little fun in the process. The most important thing is never let this rattle you, despite your possible insecurities always keep your cool as odds are she came with you and she is leaving with you and if not you're better off without her.


1. Let's say a guy is at the bar attempting to buy her a drink, if she is a respectable girlfriend she will not accept his offer. Just hang back a second while he gets rejected, then move in on your girl opposite side and pretend you don't know her, tell her how beautiful she is and offer to buy her a drink. She of course will accept and the heckler on the other side should slump off in defeat.



2. This same application can be used when a guy asks you lady to dance, again she will reject him and again you swoop in as if you don't know her and grab her hand and ask her if she wants to dance. Again you win and the heckler has lost, as if he ever had a chance of winning. This too is fun and can be quite erotic if you spice up your approach a little.

3. A bold move is to wait until a guy is trying to pick up your girl and then politely stroll up and say excuse me to both of them and say, young lady you are so beautiful that I had to just come over and see what you taste like, followed immediately by passionately kissing her deeply. She won't resist, and if she does you two got problems. Again the picker upper is defeated and this type of role play is the type of gift that can keep on giving.

4. A smooth move while at the bar, is to position yourself at the end of the bar then send the bartender over to your girl with a drink, while the guy trying to pick her up is talking. The bartender will give her the drink and say compliments of the gentleman at the end of the bar and he would like you to join him. Again, she won't resist and the picker upper will be stunned by the move. This is for those who want to avoid close contact with the heckler, but be careful with this one as it may backfire if your are to far away or if your lady has poor eyesight.

5. A final crushing maneuver is to walk while the guy is trying to pick up your girl and say excuse me, I have been thinking about you all night long, let dip outta here back to my place. She won't resist and you don't have to leave right away, but for any would be pick up artist this is a severe ego blow.

These are just a few of my tactics, each of which can modified and spiced up, the main thing is to be bold and smooth, women love the role play and the confidence. If you are too busy worrying about what this guy might do if attempt one of these moves then it is probably best you stay home until you build up some gonads. In addition, having a woman that is desirable to other men is a good thing, trust me.

Tactics may not apply to women pick up artists, again if your woman is desirable to men and women this too is a good thing!!!









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How to start a conversation- Ask The love Doctor Mac and Love doctor Mac Answers!

How to start a conversation- Ask The love Doctor Mac and Love doctor Mac Answers!

Hello and Good day to all my avid readers, The love doctor is getting much love on our column and segments here at the Love, Life and Relationship blogs most noted is the Ask Doctor Mac and Doctor Mac answers! So far I got an overwhelming pour of letters to just about everywhere through emails, comments and even text messages. Nice very nice indeed. So keep em letters and inquiries coming. The Love Doctor is more happy to help!


Anonymous said...

ei there, can you teach us some approach or how to start a convo to some random cute/attractive/prospect girl? Not pick up line ah. For example in a PUV, MRT or waiting for the bus.

-thanks

August 18, 2007 9:50 PM


So we have someone here who is a bit shy in the outside but in the inside is burning with passion to start a conversation with a girl he mets at random places. To start with, I hope you did a good job and have read my grooming tips early on my previous post! if not you can read it again here---->GROOMING!

I can offer some tips below, but the whole entire process still depends on the way you handle yourself, and of course the degree of interest you can muster out of the girl you have set your targets on. For more on women body languages just stay tune and we will surely discuss it one of these days in our Love, life and relationships segments in the coming days.

key is smile!

general tips:

1. be decent enough! - no girl at her right mind will talk to a dirty dressed and sex maniac looking guy! so always dress well and be clean looking, you will never know when or where you might see the girl of your dreams maybe, she may be walking around your corner one of these days!

2. sport that killer smile! - when I say killer smile I don't mean a smile that will knock her off the train! just smile naturally and avoid the plastic looking ones like you see at the faces of celebrities. Be genuine enough and always practice that "U" shaped lips and face in front of a mirror. Better yet avoid thinking LUSTFUL things in your head to avoid that dreadful "rapist smile" off your face! Be natural and smile at happy thoughts like you are going to date her!

3. killer punch lines! - this may sound too cheesy and some may tell you they won't work, but I can vouch for you that they do! words like "Hey your body is a wonderland, and I'll change my name to Alice!" and "I won't buy you a drink ever, because you're a stranger and I don't buy drinks to strangers" works my friend! These punch lines when delivered well will make the girl smile and will loosen up the tension between the two of you. Normally we get nervous in approaching someone, also if the girl knew you are going to approach her, she too will be tense and nervous and most of time won't know what to do next. Punch lines erases all of that. Think of it as a great title on a silly website, it gets you to read the content doesn't it? I will provide some killer punchlines that have worked for me through the years, with them came the technique and proper executions that I will soon tell all of you my avid readers of this Love, Life and relationship blog! Stay tune in future posts!

4. Be fluid! - once you and the girl exchanges smile then it's time to show her the deeper you. Act and be intelligent, if you're not that intelligent at least cover it with wittiness! Talk about relevant topics usually ranging from the place that you met. "Boy is today hot! I have showered twice this morning and I still feel icky!" or "It took me an hour the last time I tried picking a taxi in this spot, silly me, I didn't notice the preying traffic enforcer a few meters behind my back" Conversation like this make things go fluid and at ease.



So there you have it the early spot on stuff to do to get the girl talking back to you. Remember there are many factors regarding this topic, but I will provide infos as soon as I can, also note that I didn't include how to get the girls number or give away your number right? This issue is a different story by itself and I will focus on it soon in a future post. So for now, practice practice!

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Real Love Doctor How To's

How Everything Here Works?

Once Again Good Day everyone,

The Love Doctor will provide instructions today on how our lovely little site works, how to help me promote it to grab user attention and how to get something out of it for free. Yep no fees, the wealth of information around here is already paid to you by our sponsors, and no collection of whatsoever nature will occur. So joining in our discussions, reading and distributing articles and blog post here is totally free for you to do. I can only ask a favor, bring a friend in here by promoting the site, be it in forums, or chats, links, or emails or by word of mouth is up to you. But I still believe in FREEDOM, and if you don't like to promote the love doc then it's still fine by me.

To start we shall know our schedule of postings.

I am a busy man but I will surely try to keep this site up and running for a minimum of twice a week and a maximum of five times a week.
So thats a 2x-3x the average post per week, depends on how the letters and queries from our audience comes in. This will be our early tentative schedule for the months to come, any revisions will be announce as soon as things come up.

1.Ask Dr. Mac/Ask the Love Doctor segment---Every Mondays and Fridays

description = letters address to the doc will be evaluated and queued and answered on the said schedule

2.The Doctor is In-------------Every Saturday

description = health issues and tips from specialists regarding diseases cause by life, love and relationships. Nutritional tips to avoid stress and make your love life better

3.Advices and Tips------------Every Wednesday and Sunday

description = General advices and tips on broad topics from Life, Love and Relationships

4.Stories and Love Experiences--Every Sunday

description = Once in a while the love doctor will share his life stories or He might share stories from our visitors and readers and we will openly discuss them during this time

5.Site Issues and Topics--------Every Tuesday

description = Site topics and general info like this one will be tackled every Tuesdays only

As you can see everyday of the week is featured but the good doctor can and will only take 2-3 task per week on average, so some segments will be alternated to the following week.



To help support this site, there can be many ways. The most effective can be the LINK EXCHANGE, or advertising the Love Doctor site as a link from emails, websites, forums etc. the site link is

Http://www.reallovedoc.blogspot.com

If you want a backlink to you since you help promote this site then feel free to email me my email is

coolmacpaul@yahoo.com

And lastly a good promotion can't be help without the word of mouth. Tell everybody you knew that can benefit of this lovely site, either by calling, texting, email or chat or even your friends in a forum. Advertise us everytime you comment on any related sites so people there can visit us here too. The more the clinic is promoted, the more peeps we can have as part of our discussions.


Again, thanks for your time and dedication to be part of all of this.

Love Doctor Coolmac No P.H.D





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Ask Dr.Mac and the Love Doc answers! first letter

Hello and Welcome to our first ever segment of Ask Dr.Mac and the Love Doc answers!

And for our early bird I have received a comment post with a letter in it in just 2 days after this sites' been up. Talk about fast, and so he so unanimously deserves to be my first ever letter sender and he will receive first hand the answer to his queries.
You too can join and be a part of the discussions by commenting on the Love advices segments. We are going to answer 2-3 letters a week so if I receive a bundle, it means that the line to the Doc's office will be long and your queries will have to wait.

For a free "based on real life" no kidding professional like advices, tips and Love topics, Just ask the Love Doctor, Doctor Coolmac No P.H.D. Mail me or indicate in a comment a quoted letter, then go get a number in the front desk and wait for your number to be called. ^_^.

The email is coolmacpaul@yahoo.com

And now to our patient:

let's just call him by name Junior. This letter is by no way edited what so ever to show you I never sugar coat stuff in my clinic, if times do arise to provide clarification to your letters and stuff, I will do so by putting the translation, correction and clarification inside a brace comment [ edited stuff here ] so still your stuff will be left unedited and your creative way of expressing yourself still intact!

Good day love doctor,

I have this crush for such a long time now.
Since i was committed back then, i dont nurse the feeling that i think im falling for her.
When i went to a get together last night, to my surprise she was there.
Its actually my/our first time to meet in a get together/drinking session
so i was a bit hesitant to make a move.
I dont want to be like arrogant and cocky in her eyes since its just our first time.
I didnt ask for her cell number w/c i could have done coz i can remember her
saying, "at last somebody texted me".
From that i could have simply as for her number but again, [could you prolly mean "ASK"?]
i dont want to be quick. Also shes telling her friends that she wants to eat this and that,
i could have accompany her to eat but then again i dont want to be quick again.

My main concern here is im having doubts that ill pass on her standards.
She got brains and beauty. I mean, she a teacher.
I dont know if i can coupe up with her "intellectuality" [coping a feel? don't be a perv. oops you meant to say compete there eh mate?]
and i dont want to act smart and just be plain stupid in the end.

Any tips on how to break those barriers?

Hope you can help me.
Jr.

"shyness the only barrier to shagness"

Well let's break your letter into pieces to slowly grasp what your trying to visualize me and our audience here, then we will put everything together for you and show you some light on the subject of LOVE and DATING -_-

Good day love doctor,

I have this crush for such a long time now.
Since i was committed back then, i dont nurse the feeling that i think im falling for her.

A crush is a crush, commitment is a different thing. You don't need to nurse a crush feeling because to tell you the basic thing, you just like the girl. She falls into your "attractive" category so no problem there. It's pretty normal to have people of the opposite sex as our "crush, fantasy or attracted to". Yeah really, it's not cheating nor immoral. It's a basic human feeling.


When i went to a get together last night, to my surprise she was there.
Its actually my/our first time to meet in a get together/drinking session
so i was a bit hesitant to make a move.

Many believe in destiny, and it's funny how timing can play a major part in some people lives, but most of the time people just over react. So what if you saw her there? or She bumped into you in a train? or if you and her suddenly showed up in a work interview? The truth is we all live in planet earth, and earth, although a gigantic piece of a planet houses all humans, the possibility of meeting someone we knew somewhere, some place and sometime is not ZERO! unless if she lives in Mars. The big problem is in the last part of your dissected letter,

so i was a bit hesitant to make a move.

Why? Don't you want to get to talk to her again after all these time? Why were you so hesitant? To make yourself feel all so confident again you resort to the "destiny" trick, the " oh we finally met again after such a long time crap!" Next time, when it comes to this so called "chances" we as MEN must not hesitate. I will explain the importance of taking things into your hand in future posts of mine, but for now if you consider yourself a MAN, don't hesitate! Always GO FOR IT, GO FOR THE KILL! ehem I mean GO FOR THE GOAL! Losers hesitate, Winners never wait!


I dont want to be like arrogant and cocky in her eyes since its just our first time.
I didnt ask for her cell number w/c i could have done coz i can remember her
saying, "at last somebody texted me".

Now this is confusing, if you mean to say that this is your first time to be close to her in a conversation type of way, then you won't look arrogant and cocky! but if this is the second or the many times she have seen you in a lifetime, then maybe not talking to her makes you arrogant and cocky! To all MEN reading this, the notion that girls think that a guy that approaches women with confidence and style is purely A MYTH. When women say "Wow you're so cocky!" these are defensive measures and can swing both ways. Women when approached by a guy can only think of 2 things she can either have a good thought or a bad thought. So when she say you're cocky or act like you are some fresh, cocky and overconfident dude, she can only be thinking 2 things The good = if you fall for this, then you're not man enough" and the bad = "My God what a jerk!". The latter only applies to real jerks [ see the MV of Pretty Fly for a White Guy ] and from the way I read you Junior I hope you don't fall into that category, Women make tests to see if the men in front of them is really that MANLY enough to be attractive, I will explain more about this in future posts, for now all you need to know is you won't look arrogant and cocky if you approach your crush.

I didnt ask for her cell number w/c i could have done coz i can remember her
saying, "at last somebody texted me".
From that i could have simply as for her number but again,
i dont want to be quick. Also shes telling her friends that she wants to eat this and that,
i could have accompany her to eat but then again i dont want to be quick again.

All these assumptions and confusions are a direct results from what I said previously. All your questions and assumptions can be summarized into one whole sentence: "WHY OH WHY DIDN'T I APPROACH HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE.??? [insert regret, regret regret here and more regrets here"]



My main concern here is im having doubts that ill pass on her standards.
She got brains and beauty. I mean, she a teacher.
I dont know if i can coupe up with her "intellectuality" [coping a feel? don't be a perv. oops you meant to say compete there eh mate?]
and i dont want to act smart and just be plain stupid in the end.

Any tips on how to break those barriers?

Hope you can help me.


Now I find this part really funny and sorry if I had to laugh out hard at them Junior, but I guess it's the only way to show you the hard truth and hard facts of the Society today.


My main concern here is im having doubts that ill pass on her standards.

Well you won't pass anyway if you won't take her test, and the way to fill up for the entrance exams is to go talk to her period.

She got brains and beauty. I mean, she a teacher.

Don't tell me you got no brains? You an alien? of course not, SO what if she's a professional? there are some out there who married a model/actress/millionaire and they are just plain guys or worse yet, sleazy bum holes of society. This ain't an excuse man.

I dont know if i can coupe up with her "intellectuality"
and i dont want to act smart and just be plain stupid in the end.

This is no time to compare GPA's and SAT's, this is life, in life brain will mostly get you on top but staying on top takes more that that, if you think negatively always then there will be less hope for you, A MAN is a man of confidence and HE WON'T show his weakness ever. If you think she is more intelligent than you, then it's time to show her that you're wiser and streetsmarter than her. Or you can share your life's adventure which can peak her interest at you. It's all about getting her to talk with you. Your goal here is to get her to talk to you, and not by the phone or by texting, But real face to face chat. I will provide tips on this later.


Any tips on how to break those barriers?

Hope you can help me.


I do have tips and it will follow on the next segments to come here in our site so you better be on your toes and check on here always

And I can only do so much to help you, but everything is still in your hands and how you handle the next situations to come.

For better help I will give you some sample advice so you will gain confidence in approaching a girl.

get her to talk to you

1. Look Good Feel Good

Groom your self, read my grooming posts, then practice at a mirror the way you talk, walk and interact. If you have time watch some James Bond films and copy the way Mr. Bond handles himself when talking to women.

2. Walk the walk

A real man walks with confidence, no slouching and crouching, not so fast, not so slow. Learn it! Relax.

3. Talk the talk

A real man talk with confidence, not so fast, not so slow, not so loud and absolutely not so soft! Also talking comes with eye to eye contact and no cleavage peeking for crying out loud.

4. Mannerisms and gestures

A real man is not careless but takes calculated/simulated/fully automated and confident moves. The man with the right moves will magnetize chics in a snap of a finger. The best example I can show you is James Bond and the worse can be The Hunchback of Notre Dam. Borat seems to be getting there but Boy George is what to avoid in copying good gestures and mannerisms.

5. Lastly Everything is believable

A real man looks like HE CAN BE TRUSTED! and not like a con-artist or someone who will rape a girl due to his super confidence. In other words HE WON'T APPEAR FAKE AT ALL. This takes practice mind you, so what are you waiting for, practice them all now.



And once you got the hang of it, try approaching your friends with your newly found confidence, they will be the first to notice your change, then try approaching and talking to someone you knew but never get the chance to be close. Any age will do. Any family member or close relative that you haven't got the chance to talk or interact with will be great practice.

Remember your first step is confidence and self-esteem.

Here's an additional tip, Women always notices the men's height first, so if you are tall then you are already above the rest, if not then you will have to work on the second thing they notice about us and that's our gestures/mannerisms. I will work on the psychology of the women's mind as well as the men's mind in the future posts.
For what i have read from your letter Junior it looks like you haven't made any of the two above. As we put our selves on sale for the rest of the world those two stuff is our marketing slogans and advertisements.

Hope some of my comments here will help you gain confidence as this is the only stuff customizable and can be improved through practice. Your face and Height and body built requires much hardwork and operations to change but your confidence is just improveable in 2 weeks minimum in my "experience"


Till next time goodluck!




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How to attract the opposite sex tip 1 GROOMING continued...

GROOMING 101

Now to continue on our topic of grooming. WE SHOULD start for MEN

Women comes in later in the next updates!
Let me tell you a secret that most women possessed, they judge men at the instant they see you. Yes that's a fact. Ask a woman close to you, like your mother, sister girlfriend or girl friends. The very first thing that majority of women, [why did I say majority? because I want to generalized but not conclude stuff by myself ^_^], do when they see an eye candy of a man is how neat he looks. Secondly she will look at his actions and mannerisms. For now since the first impression states for how neat you look, we shall only focus there.

Most women spend countless hours in front of the mirror to have themselves looking good, don't you think you can be at least hygienic? Shave everyday or 3x a week seems appropriate if you want to save that rugged style [ boy! the Beattles Sgt.Pepper era is long gone back in the 60's] Wash your hair or trim it 4-6 weeks or so, if you want to sport long doo's then make them look presentable, use deodorant's [no need to stress the importance factor here], wash your genitals for crying out loud! [what more can be embarrassing than when mr.hardy makes his grand showing and flies were circling all over him] wait these are just the basics!

More complex stuffs are cut the nails of your hands and feet or if you want em long clean those dirty crap underneath them [women likes to check men's nails when they stare at your hand], make sure your socks and shoes wont smell by applying foot deos on your feet, clean your shoes, press em clothes and wear a clean pair of shirt or underwear everyday [not much for pants since you can wear them twice the minimum ^_^]. Now if you go for those minority looks like a rocker perhaps or an EMO kid, then make sure you have a clean looking face and the look doesn't make you look like a greasy street bum.

oh those were the days

Such detail to your self is already a big piece of the pie for women when you start off to make that very first impression of yours. Even if you are not so good looking or just an average Joe, there will be times when your confidence will be boost by feeling clean and [feeling] handsome.

here's a few general tips:

1. GO TO A HAIRSTYLIST: instead of the usual barber, go to a hairstylist often. they make hair doo's customization the best and they always seem to know what they are doing unlike those sleazy barbers who cut and cut all day to copy Hitler's bowl head. the only downside is Saloons and Hairstylist cost more even thrice the price of a simple barber cut, but the rewards will be gold, as a good hair day will surely not keep the chics away!

2. SHAVING: hair and hair growing on places they aren't design to be must be taken off, the more skin you show, the lesser hairs you keep, that's the rule of the thumb. If you don't want to lose that goatie, then trim it to an acceptable level. Pubics are best when trimmed and nicely cut to a few centimeters. As I said, gone are the days of the hippies and John Lennon wannabes, stick to the George Clooney look or the Brad and the Beckhams' as other's want to point out.

3. GLASSES: nerd! well don't be. generally glasses don't look good. isolated cases of cuteness can be achieved but most of the time you will look like a weird science project with a pair of specs, so lose them! wear contacts instead. If you think contacts are pricey, then ask a lady friend or a trendy gay guy to what shape of specs suits your face.

4. DRESS CODE: this is the second most important thing in your look. Go to a fancy club or pub and spy on the newest thing that most guys wear, then make an effort to emulate but be sure to make your self stand out for that individuality feel. If it suits your body and image, buy latest mags and look at what good-looking models wear and ask a woman or a woman at heart if the dress code you styled your self looks good on you. A second-third opinion works best only if they come from the opposite sex, since these are the species you wanna impress!

ABS is better than AB

5. WORKING OUT: if you can, take advantage of making your body have the right curves and lose that AB and have em ABS. these appeals to women more, but hey if you can accept what you see at the mirror when you look at it after shower, then I don't have to force you on working out. Go grab that supersized FastFood Meal and kill your image and your self fatso! Remember being fat is not appealing to women, they may say your cute but they won't sleep with you! And don't be the next Schwarzenegger too, unless you are trying to attract dudes and not dudets =P
Everything in moderation my friend.

6. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY/MIND/SOUL: the most important part of grooming. if you have a disease, have it treated right away with the right stuff and not crappy myths. You can't use a deadly smile if you have lousy teeth and you can't show skin if you have skin problems wont you? also take care of your mind, don't overdue everything, like talking too much, showing too much knowledge unless you're a geek in National Geographic, or stalk some girl. Focus and keep your mind at a healthy state [I don't know, do yoga or have a vacation but always keep in mind to keep that stress level low, eat properly]. Your soul must not rot in hell here on earth, don't be a friggin' war freak, be nice and kind or at least for a few hours in a day. Be nice to children and offer seats to the ederly, when your personality is okay women tend to magnetize straight into you.

ever wonder why chics dig these types?

There, those are just general tips on grooming for men, of course there are more to it, but if you have all of those then you can pretty much say you have covered the basics in making it easy to attract or find your potential mate. If you are hard headed and a rebel, oh so you really want things to go your way, then make it in moderation and don't go to extremes which can make you a deviant of society.

For your information being in the norm or the accepted is a start for you. That's why it's called normal and accepted because people generally like it or are pleased with it. So if you tend to sway a bit to the left or right, just tone it down to an acceptable firewall level.


Next grooming for women.... SOON



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How to attract the opposite sex tip 1 GROOMING

Introduction to GROOMING

How many times does your mother ever told you when you were young to brush your teeth, comb your hair and take a bath? How many times does your school administrator tried to discipline you for your penmanships and project reports to be organized and looking fresh? How many times have you read company policies which states that a certain well groomed dress code is a must in reporting to your office? Countless times isn't it?

Well just like everything else, humans tend to like cleanliness a bit little more than being dirty. Of course there are only an exceptional few who would intentionally make themselves look greasy, yuppie and plain outright dirty, but who would want to be seen with them unless you belong to that social circle! and then there are those who become not well groomed just because of plain NEGLECT or a sickening LAZINESS syndrome. Yes I coined that one didn't I.

not just a bad hair day folks

First let us get to the basics of the human sexual taste, ever since time memorial, when the first humans started to socialize, grooming was already playing a big part of their world. The men would smell the woman they like and if they are attracted they will pursue her. The "Alpha male" usually is the most cunning and dominant and yep, he is well-groomed in the eyes of his lady mates. Onward to the 21st Century and you won't be shocked at how consumer beauty product brands dominate the scene almost anywhere you look! Billboards, T.V. commercials and print media. Everything is there offering stuff that will make you stand out from the rest.

But you don't need all of those consumer products to attract a potential mate or keep your partner smiling at how great you look, it all boils down to what is the norm. What really is the norm? That we will talk about in Grooming part 2 in a couple of days. Sit tight.





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