Best Friend Close Friend causing Love rifts to Lovers

Hello Dear Readers of The Real Love Doctor Clinic. Today we will tackle a life experience of the Real Love doctor himself. so sit back and enjoy reading the post below today!

I have been asked one too many times to somehow share my life experiences around here so people can gaged my being the Real Love Doctor as either fake or somewhat credible enough. I must say I am stumped always and that I don't have a clue where to start talking. One day a girl mailed me and ask why not share an experience about having an opposite-sex close friend. She asks if it is safe or not? She also included that she is in a relationship and that her boyfriend is pissed off sometimes with this guy close friend of hers.

Hello dear love doctor,

can you site some of your experiences regarding 3rd parties or best friends scneario that threatens a relationship? i have a clkose guy friend in which i have been doing sweet things lately and my current boyfriend is so jealous that he orders me not to hang out with my best friend again.

i'll gladly listen to your explaination,

good day doc
love maris

Dear Maris, To answer that question of your regarding third parties and other members of the opposite sex which could be a potential hazard to our current love relationships, I will personally share you one of my experiences about it. Not that I only have one experienced about that situation, I do have a few, but I will only cite the most relevant one that will surely tackle our main concern for the day.

First I really don't believe in GIRL_BOY best friends or close friends relationships, why??? Simple because for me it is considered as a love relationship under control or in other words you both are semi-in love with each other. That's why the jealousy and insecurity of your other behalf regarding your so called "opposite sex" best friend or close friend.

Man and woman cannot be close friends at all. That is my definitive answer. Many times I am close with a girl, we either become kissing friends or any other physical type of attraction occurs. It's best that the closeness must not be that "close" anymore. Do you treat the same sex friends of yours like the opposite sex close friend of yours the same??? Most answers will be probably no. It's because these close/best friends of the opposite sex we have are just as special as the next lover that we may have.

So I guess you are keeping this guy around because you are attracted to him. My advice is if you really want to be happy with your relationship now it's best that you tell your close friend to slowly pull away before anything else developed into some weird and strange feelings.

Till next time the Love Doctor Signing out of the Love Clinic








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99 Top secret List that women should know about guys

99 SECRETS GIRLS HAVE TO KNOW ABOUT GUYS


1. Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and *presentable girls.

* * * 2. Guys hate flirts.

* * * 3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.

* * * 4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.

* * * 5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.

* * * 6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

* * * 7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.

* * * 8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

* * * 9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.

* * * 10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

* * * 11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.

* * * 12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they sure have one *habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!

* * * 13. Guys cry!!!

* * * 14. Don't provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.

* * * 15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.

* * * 16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.

* * * 17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.

* * * 18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind!" *would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.

* * * 19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

* * * 20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

* * * 21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.

* * * 22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."

* * * 23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

* * * 24. Guys hate gays!

* * * 25. Guys love their moms.

* * * 26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

* * * 27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.

* * * 28 You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

* * * 29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.

* * * 30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.

* * * 31. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.

* * * 32. Guys are very open about themselves.

* * * 33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long. *

* * 34. No guy is bad when he is courting

* * * 35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.

* * * 36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.

* * * 37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems *with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

* * * 38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

* * * 39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

* * * 40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.

* * * 41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.

* * * 42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.

* * * 43. Guys virtually brag about anything.

* * * 44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

* * * 45. Guys think too much.

* * * 46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.

* * * 47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does!

* * * 48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too

* * * possessive. So watch out girls!!!

* * * 49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.

* * * 50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up * especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.

* * * 51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with *that guy.

* * * 52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's

* * * too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't * be matured and grow up.

* * * 53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more *than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.

* * * 54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.

* * * 55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their *girlfriends.

* * * 56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll probably *see that he is nervous.

* * * 57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.

* * * 58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me"

* * * 59. Guys don't really have final decisions.

* * * 60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.

* * * 61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.

* * * 62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

* * * 63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.

* * * 64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.

* * * 65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.

* * * 66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.

* * * 67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl *would do over her romance novels and make-ups.

* * * 68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.

* * * 69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

* * * 70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

* * * 71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.

* * * 72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.

* * * 73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you'll be surprised.

* * * 74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting * guys.

* * * 75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about *girls.

* * * 76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.

* * * 77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.

* * * 78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.

* * * 79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.

* * * 80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them,they'll realize they're wrong.

* * * 81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's just too stubborn to deal with it.

* * * 82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.

* * * 83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.

* * * 84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already *thinking of a way out.

* * * 85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing *things.

* * * 86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or he's criticizing you.

* * * 87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance,

* * * give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.

* * * 88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.

* * * 89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.

* * * 90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

* * * 91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!

* * * 92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.

* * * 93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.

* * * 94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.

* * * 95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

* * * 96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!

* * * 97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.

* * * 98. Guys hate girls who overreact.

* * * 99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.








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Blonde Women May make Men Dumber

Men like to make jokes on the stereotype of the dumb blond women. And now, a French team has discovered that men's mental ability plummeted when dealing with blond women, probably as they thought they had a less intelligent interlocutor.

The study published in Journal of Experimental
Psychology consisted in two trials, both of them coming with the same results. Men in the study had to complete general knowledge tests while being exposed to women of various hair colors. The scores dropped in both trials when the subjects were presented images of blond women. Further investigations revealed that the subjects had been following unconscious social stereotypes.

"This proves that people confronted with stereotypes generally behave in line with them. In this case blonds have the potential to make people act in a dumber way, because they mimic the unconscious stereotype of the dumb blond," said co-author Thierry Meyer, professor of social psychology at the University of Paris X-Nanterre.

You know that everybody takes the delicate girl with a high-pitch as an innocent creature, when actually she curses all day long when the boss is not around. The same happens with all people we deal with: he/she must be that way because he/she looks like that, speaks like that. This study is another proof which underlines the theory that people’s behavior is powerfully dictated by stereotypes.


Hollywood especially started (at the middle of the 20th century) to boost the stereotype of the dumb blond bimbo through movies stars like Marilyn Monroe, Goldie Hawn and Pamela Anderson. And the trend has been refueled recently by celebrities like Paris Hilton, Britney Spears, and Jessica Simpson.

Most white babies are born blond, that's why some researchers suppose there is a basic connection between blond hair and infancy, and the tendency to regard blond woman as less mature. As men have the tendency to look for younger women, as these are at the climax of their fertile period, perhaps this also explains the sexual preference of men for blond women, which they could perceive as younger.








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Reasons Why Men are Happier Than Women

35 Reasons Why Men Are Happier Then Women

1. We keep our last name.

2. The garage is all ours.

3. Wedding plans take care of themselves.

4. Chocolate is just another snack.

5. We can be president.

6. We can wear a white T-shirt to a water park.

7. Car mechanics tell us the truth.

8. The world is our urinal.

9. We never have to drive to another gas station because this one's just too icky.

10. Same work, more pay.

11. Wrinkles add character.

12. Wedding dress - $5000; tux rental - $100.

13. People never stare at our chest when we're talking to them.

14. The occasional well-rendered belch is practically expected.

15. New shoes don't cut, blister, or mangle our feet.

16. One mood, ALL the time.

17. Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.

18. We know stuff about tanks.

19. A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase.

20. We can open all our own jars.

21. We get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.

22. If someone forgets to invite us, he or she can still be our friend.

23. Our underwear is $8.95 for a three-pack.

24. Everything on our face stays its original color.

25. Three pairs of shoes are more than enough.

26. We don't have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt.

27. We almost never have strap problems in public.

28. We are unable to see wrinkles in our clothes.

29. The same hair style lasts for years, maybe decades.

30. We don't have to shave below our neck.

31. Our belly usually hides our big hips.

32. One wallet and one pair of shoes, one color, all seasons.

33. We can "do" our nails with a pocket-knife.

34. We have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache.

35. We can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives, on December 24, in 45 minutes.








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Why Women Don't Like Porn and other Men's Stuff that men like!

Why Women Don't Like Porn and other Men's Stuff that men like!

For today, Let us focus more on the funny side of life and not strain our backs on being a "womenizer" for just a short while, still as I have been saying since the past keep them letters pilling up please, the real love doctor will surely not hesitate to post some of your letters if it fits the Life, love and relationships topics. Good day.

I received a funny letter from a dear reader and I must say most of his thoughts about women is almost near perfectly true! Many thanks miss Genevieve for this funny yet humorous side of women in general.


why girls why?

Why Women Don't Like Porn

What you have to understand is that the average woman thinks that she is the only woman in the world who has a vagina. Not that they seriously think that, but it's a fantasy they all have. It's like being the only one to own a certain dress, or a certain pair of shoes. Seeing clear, irrefutable evidence that another woman has one that works perfectly well is a tremendous blow to the ego.

Why women don't like sports

Because it is competitive, and women being insecure about their own ability to compete physically (and rightly so), have a problem with even the idea of athletic competition. They condescend to pretending to like sports because guys like it, and a chick who likes sports is seems stronger amd more appealing.

Why Women don't like anal sex

Because everybody has an anus, which kind of removes them from being the sole porperty of the female sex. It doesn't make them feel feminine and sexy. Also they know that men will be grossed out afterwards and won't want to cuddle with them.

Why Women Don't Like Action Movies

The same reasons as sports, basically. Action movies involve competition that surrounds physical strength and skill, areas in which the femal sex is often lacking.

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Help my Affair with a married guy goes astray! Ask the Real love doctor and the love doctor answers

Help my Affair with a married guy goes astray! Ask the Real love doctor and the love doctor answers

Hello readers and friends, another good day for Ask the real love doctor and the love doctor answer segment isn't it? So to kick start our weekly routine let me introduce to you a good reader of ours who has been online and reading our lovely site since the first week of our existence. Let's all hide her in the name of Jenny, and Jenny has this email which I would like to give light on today:

the deadly kiss of death

" dear love doctor;

gud day, how's things going? i would like 2 ask you sumthing today that has been bothering me for a long time now. i have a relationship with a married man, i know that it is not right, but i am also not that religious so i just go with my feelings for him, he is my superbisor at our office, we have been on for more than two years, and after all those years he is thinking on breaking up with me 2 be with his family. i am broken hearted, please advice me o how to forget him. thanks will be emailing you soon, thank you very much love doctor

jenny"


Hello Jenny. To tell you something about Jenny, she is a 22 year old Filipina and currently working in a small office in Manila. She has emailed me 4x now and this time after much plea, I was able to convince her to have her letter to me be put in public so I can answer them and help many.

To answer your question ms.Jenny, I will gave you two points first okay?

Point

1. Trying to win a married person love is wrong! which ever you look at it, in society norms, in religion [even if you are not that religious] in the law and in the eyes of the family of that person. I think you are now not blinded to the fact that even you think that what you two just did is really wrong.

2. At these kind of illegal relationships, it is always the women that suffers, the wife and the mistress, and most of the time the men always came out like champions achieving trophies.


So with these two points I put out I hope you are brought back into reality and not to be put into the same dark situation that you are in now. Just be prepared because a lot of secrets from the past seems and most often always do come back to haunt you in the near future. You are still young. I know you will meet someone in the near future that will surely love and take good care of you in a nice loving relationship. For now to avoid him I will give you some tips.

no point in arguing

1. Try to find a job that will put you far away from him, by this what I mean is, the distant you are with him, the faster you will forget, also try not to resign from your work if your next job is still not secure.

2. Be busy with daily activities or stuff that will eat up most of your time- this is good practice if you are trying to forget someone or curing a heart ache - just avoid over eating and watch out for over dating! A clean fun activity will do like going back to your old town for a breather or a short vacation.

3. Try to heal the wound in your heart and not just by forcing your self to new man, the key here is to wait.


Got the 3 tips? Well Just like anything else I can only give out advices, the one who will be doing the actions is you. I hope ladies will learn from endless shocking and always ending up losing stories of countless women falling in love with married men and ending up with the wrong relationship partners. There is someone for everyone, keep that in mind, and that his wife is that someone for him and you just can't share.


Till next time for our updates, be sure to tune in for tips, advices and anything in general about Real Love, life and relationships 101 with your host The real love doctor Mac!

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For Women Love Tips Number 1

A few Good Men!

For the Girls, Relationships, Love and Life Tips for Women #1
Places to meet those Mr.Right for me.


Ah You might probably ask why on earth are we looking for Mr. Right when he doesn't actually exist! well not to burst your bubble girl he does exist, but only as "Mr. Right For you!" why as just for you? because there is always a someone for anyone, the only thing we need to do is look for them and not be like those hopeless romantics who wait for their Prince falling down from the sky or sprouting from the ground out of nowhere. Men are territorial creatures, and just like the time of the stone age, Men can be categorized to the places he usually hang out. I will give further details about this stuff on future issues, for now we shall concentrate on where do most of the few Good men hang out!

like a grain of sand, where are the few good men?

Before we jump into the topic of finding the few good men on building relationships or finding love, let me tell you this. As a guy I already know what the entire world is like, and that women outnumbered men, hmmm i don't know the exact figure but last time I check it was like a ratio of men versus women to the numbers of 1:5, which basically means in every one guy there are five women. Nature is a culprit for this because of the chromosomes needed in the DNA to produce a male offspring. During conception, where the mom and the dad share one chromosome each, it takes 2 genes of DNA x to have a male and any other combination like x-y, y-x, y-y will eventually produce a female. No wonder in other countries a son born to a family is accompanied by tremendous celebrations! I think the ratio now tends to worsen since the female species have gays, transsexuals and any other male preference to compete with! No kidding. So there you have some little facts not to get your ass sitting there if you really want a man in your life, go find him and don't let those countless hours you spent in the mirror or millions of bucks for beauty products just go to waste by either finding no man in your life or ending up with Mr. Wrong.

Now where do the few good men hang out? Well to tell you a little known fact is that they don't hang around the Internet! Even though
a million women may claim that they find the man of their dreams online, I doubt it if they have any idea to how many perverts, nerds, over sized lards preying on helpless women are there in the web, I don't even know the figure but with all the bad rep in the news about online dating and online match making the Internet is still not a good place to seek a few good men. To those who got lucky in the Internet, then good for you, the word says it all. LUCKY. Real men who are worthy of your time don't need to sulk up in the Internet for more that 1 an hour a day in the Internet or if work requires even an 8-9 hour shifts on the net, why? cause like TV the Internet takes away his social life. Real men who are ripe for good relationships and love making are everywhere where there is people, these guys are social creatures. A healthy normal guy is a social person. They love to go out and meet people on all walks of life, and not wasting their time in the net, watching porn or doing some stuff many of us don't understand [why do many fall into the traps of Internet addiction? we can only wonder what they are doing in that hell hole!] Yes, real man that could be Mr. Right For You can mostly be found in Social, well beloved and people packed places! if you want to know what are the Places I'm talking about I will give you just a few list soon as I will continue to tell you
about where to seek real men in future post. For now I will suggest a good meeting place!


The Ball Arena!!!

act like a good crowd

It's simple. Men thrives and dies for competition. So in the real world today where can this place of competition be? Well for one is the workplace, but hell no you don't want to seek your Mr.right there! These places can be found in SPORTS ARENA or typical venues where sports are played! It's a fact that real men love sports. There are many types of sports, be it boxing, wrestling, bikes and other physical dangerous stuffs but nothing appeal more to men that BALL SPORTS. Do your research but the top ball sports are these FOUR---BASKETBALL,
BASEBALL, SOCCER and FOOTBALL/RUGBY. So go cheer for your favorite team, bring along a companion, when I say a companion it means only one! Men sometimes tend not to approach a herd of women, so at least a nephew or a close friend will do, best if she's a girl too. Sit somewhere in the general admission area or if you can afford after the ringside seats, then try to look fresh and act naturally. Mostly guys go with their friends too but most of them go with their buddy, so If one of these few good men spot you and you advertise your self right by carrying the right moves and wearing the right clothes for the occasion [casual wear or sporty, no need for expensive dresses in a ball game] then they might just will make a move to get to know you. Also don't wait till half time to buy drinks or food at the stalls, if your Guy stands up and heads for the comfort room then you too should stand up. Just make sure you are always on his radar or just around the vicinity, if he is into you he will do the right move and introduce himself to you. Don't frustrate if it takes you a couple or more games till some guy approaches, everything takes time.

dress sporty!

That's it for today's relationship tips by your love doctor!



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What are they Thinking? Men and Women

HUMOR WITH LOVE

For today since we have no Letters pouring in for our Ask Dr.Mac/Ask the love doctor segment, we will just enjoy a good site review and some few laughs about an article I find in that site. This Topic is not way off topic mind you and we are still dead on Love, Life and Relationship Tips from your good Love Doctor!

That site is no other than the quirky blog of some guy in the vicinity of Metro Manila

A Blog about Girls in the Philippines

Here's a few nice pics from his site which I will show here.

if you can spot the sex gland then you have great eyes

if you can't find the sex gland then see an eye specialist! NOW

It's a really funny site and shows you the HUMOROUS side of the Philippine folks, or more commonly known as the pinoys!

See you next time. Good day




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