1. A man won't let go if he really
loves you.
Do not hold on to someone who has let
go of you. He does not love you and
does not value having you. Believe me,
he will not let go if he really loves
you. There is another reason he is not
willing to tell.
2. Do not look for reasons why he
ended the relationship.
There is only one reason why he ended
your relationship. He just does not
love you. Do not waste your time
thinking of reasons or what you should
have done. Move on and be open to a
man who will truly love you.
3. Do not get hung up on your past.
Do not nag or distrust your current
boyfriend just because your ex hurt
you. Do not treat him or the
relationship the same way. Do not
compare. He will not react the same
way as your ex. Do not be worried that
your simple mistakes will cause him to
look for another girl. What happened
with your ex was not your fault. It
was not because you didn't guard him
enough or you didn't make him happy
enough.
4. Do not look into images.
How many times have you met a girl who
didn't have the best image in school
or at the office, but you get to know
the girl and found out she was
actually extremely nice? Do not rely
on images. Oftentimes, it is far from
reality. Do not fear men just because
your "supposedly" perfect ex-boyfriend
mistreated you.
5. Always have your own set of rules.
Set your limits on how far you'd go
for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give
and do everything as long as it's
worth it. And it's worth it if the guy
is treating you right.
6. Do not be scared to lose him.
Don't be scared that he'll break up
with you. Once you are afraid of
losing him, you easily can be taken
advantage. Be strong and if something
is unacceptable, do not accept it and
speak up.
7. Avoid calling your guy.
It's a guy thing. The relationship
will definitely be better if it's the
guy who's calling, not the girl. He
will get tired of you if you keep on
calling. He will lose interest and
challenge. More
so, he will get annoyed. But it's a
girl thing also that your fingers get
too itchy until you dial his number.
But avoid as much as possible. Call
only if really needed (like checking
if your suspicions are reasonable).
8. There is a guy who will value you.
There is a guy out there who can make
you feel valued, appreciated, and
loved. And I mean, not just during
your first few weeks together. So
don't lose hope. Don't settle for a
lesbian if you are not attracted to
women. There is a man out there who
can love you like a girl can.
Also, do not believe him when he says
it's just the way he really is. He's
not the sweet or expressive-type.
Remember during your first few weeks
together? Where has that sweet guy
gone? He simply is not that into you
anymore.
9. Always be the only one, no matter
what.
Do not ever fall for a guy who has
another girl, be it his wife,
girlfriend, or any girl that he says
he just can't get rid of for whatever
reason. If you truly believe that he
loves you and for some reason, he
can't leave or let go of another girl,
then you are no different from any
ordinary mistress.
10. He must respect you.
No matter how long the relationship
has been, he should always show
respect towards you.
11. If he fooled you, end it.
Philandering once is enough. You can
never trust nor respect the person
again.
12. Never start a relationship the
wrong way.
Do not steal another girl's man, for
whatever reason. Nor should you enter
a relationship for the wrong reasons
(loneliness, on the rebound, getting
back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.)
it is bound not to last. You will only
end up wasting more years of your life.
13. Do not force yourself into a
relationship.
Do not get into a relationship just
because your friends are getting
impatient with your dating escapades
and the one hasn't come yet.
Ever found yourself holding back because you're too proud?
I realized that pride would get me nowhere. You'll never get anywhere if you don't start somewhere. So swallow your pride. But what I failed to mention was that the absence of pride makes me feel so bare. Like I'm holding on to it for that just-in-case moment that I realize I just don't want to give it up--- just yet. Maybe until I realize and find the right reason for taking in my pride and as a result, would actually make me a better person. Maybe I'm still waiting for that "humbling experience" to happen. You know, the kind of experience that just makes you realize your flaws and that you have to change not for anyone but for yourself. Am I making any sense? Well my point is, I'm slowly but unsurely taking in my pride in hopes that by doing so, I'm becoming a more mature person, a braver being. I hope. But I think what I'm doing is a meaningful endeavor and maybe more because I think that person may be worth getting to know, may actually be worth my while. We'll see. So find a cause, something that you think is worth your while. And if it's a someone, you have master patience and ask yourself if he/she is worth knowing or talking to and that person would make you someone better. Cheesy, yes but hey that's the truth!:D I end this with a quote in my head:
" When you find someone who makes you smile, when you find someone who makes you learn to love, who makes you wake up to the reality of life, when you find someone who truly listens and shares what he thinks, when you find you want to spend every hour, every minute, every nanosecond with that person, keep him and if he's not yet yours, find him. Everything starts with that one step that makes all the difference in the world."
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