ReLaTiOnShIp 101

1. A man won't let go if he really

loves you.

Do not hold on to someone who has let

go of you. He does not love you and

does not value having you. Believe me,

he will not let go if he really loves

you. There is another reason he is not

willing to tell.

2. Do not look for reasons why he

ended the relationship.

There is only one reason why he ended

your relationship. He just does not

love you. Do not waste your time

thinking of reasons or what you should

have done. Move on and be open to a

man who will truly love you.

3. Do not get hung up on your past.

Do not nag or distrust your current

boyfriend just because your ex hurt

you. Do not treat him or the

relationship the same way. Do not

compare. He will not react the same

way as your ex. Do not be worried that

your simple mistakes will cause him to

look for another girl. What happened

with your ex was not your fault. It

was not because you didn't guard him

enough or you didn't make him happy

enough.

4. Do not look into images.

How many times have you met a girl who

didn't have the best image in school

or at the office, but you get to know

the girl and found out she was

actually extremely nice? Do not rely

on images. Oftentimes, it is far from

reality. Do not fear men just because

your "supposedly" perfect ex-boyfriend

mistreated you.

5. Always have your own set of rules.

Set your limits on how far you'd go

for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give

and do everything as long as it's

worth it. And it's worth it if the guy

is treating you right.

6. Do not be scared to lose him.

Don't be scared that he'll break up

with you. Once you are afraid of

losing him, you easily can be taken

advantage. Be strong and if something

is unacceptable, do not accept it and

speak up.

7. Avoid calling your guy.

It's a guy thing. The relationship

will definitely be better if it's the

guy who's calling, not the girl. He

will get tired of you if you keep on

calling. He will lose interest and

challenge. More

so, he will get annoyed. But it's a

girl thing also that your fingers get

too itchy until you dial his number.

But avoid as much as possible. Call

only if really needed (like checking

if your suspicions are reasonable).

8. There is a guy who will value you.

There is a guy out there who can make

you feel valued, appreciated, and

loved. And I mean, not just during

your first few weeks together. So

don't lose hope. Don't settle for a

lesbian if you are not attracted to

women. There is a man out there who

can love you like a girl can.

Also, do not believe him when he says

it's just the way he really is. He's

not the sweet or expressive-type.

Remember during your first few weeks

together? Where has that sweet guy

gone? He simply is not that into you

anymore.

9. Always be the only one, no matter

what.

Do not ever fall for a guy who has

another girl, be it his wife,

girlfriend, or any girl that he says

he just can't get rid of for whatever

reason. If you truly believe that he

loves you and for some reason, he

can't leave or let go of another girl,

then you are no different from any

ordinary mistress.

10. He must respect you.

No matter how long the relationship

has been, he should always show

respect towards you.

11. If he fooled you, end it.

Philandering once is enough. You can

never trust nor respect the person

again.

12. Never start a relationship the

wrong way.

Do not steal another girl's man, for

whatever reason. Nor should you enter

a relationship for the wrong reasons

(loneliness, on the rebound, getting

back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.)

it is bound not to last. You will only

end up wasting more years of your life.

13. Do not force yourself into a

relationship.

Do not get into a relationship just

because your friends are getting

impatient with your dating escapades

and the one hasn't come yet.

Ever found yourself holding back because you're too proud?

I realized that pride would get me nowhere. You'll never get anywhere if you don't start somewhere. So swallow your pride. But what I failed to mention was that the absence of pride makes me feel so bare. Like I'm holding on to it for that just-in-case moment that I realize I just don't want to give it up--- just yet. Maybe until I realize and find the right reason for taking in my pride and as a result, would actually make me a better person. Maybe I'm still waiting for that "humbling experience" to happen. You know, the kind of experience that just makes you realize your flaws and that you have to change not for anyone but for yourself. Am I making any sense? Well my point is, I'm slowly but unsurely taking in my pride in hopes that by doing so, I'm becoming a more mature person, a braver being. I hope. But I think what I'm doing is a meaningful endeavor and maybe more because I think that person may be worth getting to know, may actually be worth my while. We'll see. So find a cause, something that you think is worth your while. And if it's a someone, you have master patience and ask yourself if he/she is worth knowing or talking to and that person would make you someone better. Cheesy, yes but hey that's the truth!:D I end this with a quote in my head:

" When you find someone who makes you smile, when you find someone who makes you learn to love, who makes you wake up to the reality of life, when you find someone who truly listens and shares what he thinks, when you find you want to spend every hour, every minute, every nanosecond with that person, keep him and if he's not yet yours, find him. Everything starts with that one step that makes all the difference in the world."








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Love, Love and More Love

Love Doctor Mac says a little about love

We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that
experience makes us feel completely alive. Where
every sense is heightened, every emotion is
magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and
we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a
moment, an hour, an afternoon. But that doesn't
diminish its value. Because we are left with
memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives.

1) Don't turn your back on love when it's already
in front of you, Don't drive it away from you,
because if you do, someday, you'll think again,
why you let love flew when it was there next to you.

2) In Love, think things first over if you're sure
about how you feel. Don't fall too hard not
knowing where you will stand, 'coz it will hurt
real badly if things don't go the way you want
them to be.

3) It's an irony to know that it takes hours for
someone to have guts to say "hi" to the one he
likes, days to admire, weeks to miss the person,
months to love, but just a blink of an eye to say
goodbye...

4) Go for the person who loves you. It is not
wrong to love someone who belongs to someone else,
but it is much better to love someone who could
also love you in return.

5) Love isn't something we hold, it is something
we set free. It's not something we just do, but
it's something we don't imagine it to be. Lastly,
it's not something we choose, it chooses us...

6) The scariest thing about falling in love is
getting hurt. The scariest thing about getting
hurt is not being able to love again. The scariest
thing about not loving again is being alone forever.

7) When you follow your heart, worry not where it
will lead you, for your heart knows the way. And
if you do get lost or reach a dead end, use your
head to lead you back home.

8) When you truly care for someone, you don't look
for faults, you don't look for answers, you don't
look for mistakes. Instead, you fight for the
mistakes, you accept the faults, and you overlook
excuses.

9) It's better to lose your pride to the one you
love, than lose your loved one to your useless pride.

10) Love is ......... not its your fault ", but
"Im sorry ", not " where are you ? ", but " Im
here", not " how could you ? ", but " I
understand, not "I wish you were here ", but " Im
thankful you are ".

11) The beginning of love is to let those we love
be just themselves, and not twist with our own image.

Otherwise, we love only the reflection of
ourselves we find in them.

12) If a relationship is truly meant for you, your
love will find a way to make it happen, and God
will be there to make sure it will stay.

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Why do guys give girls sexy expressions? Answered By the Real love Doctor

Hello Dear Readers of The Real Love Doctor Clinic. Oh My How Time Flies By the Minute and soon it will be Christmas, Just in 12 days or less depending on your location, the grandest festive time of the year for most countries is really here. Your Love Doctor as busy as always have been going into a lot of trouble preparing life's management as of late. No worries To all who sent their emails as I have been answering them privately too.

To all concern Our Email System has broke down and I will Change the Email To DASAINBONG@Yahoo.com

I repeat Mail all your Life, Love And Relationships Concerns only to DASAINBONG@Yahoo.com.


For now let's go on to our next letter sender of the day.

It came from a sweet girl going to a name Vallery, Here is her concerns about real love or flirting and my answer is right in below. Let the Real Love Doctor get to work now and have your appointments ready for those who needs love advice and love tips.



Dear Love Doctor

Why do guys give girls sexy expressions?
This guy i like at work when ever i look at him or smile or laugh or talk to him he gives me this really sexy expression. and i cant even explain it. and i don't know why he does it. i hope you can help me on this.

Dear Vallery, in accordance to your letter I will make this brief and simple for you just like your love letter to me. Which is plain short and straight to the point and I really find it appealing that you did it that way as it has a rush kinda feel in it. LOL

Why do you feel this way to him can only be answered in two simple ways

1. First He is into you or he wants you, that's why he gives you the look and he tries to be sexy all the time when talking to you, guys tend to be at their sexiest when they flirt with girls they like.

2. Maybe He's really that sexy and you find him attractive, everyone has a distinct taste about how we like our partners or mate to be, YOU MIGHT JUST BE ATTRACTED TO HIM. Maybe he is really a hunk after all


there You have it, keep the love letters pouring and have a merry Christmas ahead.

The Real Love Doctor Signing Off

Till the next time our clinic opens









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Simple Relationship tips for men

Okay guys, we all have wondered at one time or another, what’s it take to have a good relationship? Hopefully I can help some of you struggling fellows out a bit.

Woman are mysterious, strong, soft, weak, compassionate, caring, thoughtful, delicate and many other emotions, usually all at the same time. Men, well, we just are what we are. We get confused when they cry, laugh, get mad, scream and sleep. It’s a basic difference between men and women. Some things you can do to help your woman and make her think she is the best and only person in your life. This is of course directed to men in a relationship.

Pay attention to her. This is the number one thing you can do. If she is talking, don’t be text messaging a friend, watching sports, playing games, or reading. Give her your undivided attention. And keep that thought running through your head out of there, it will show up in your eyes. Make eye contact with her. Gently lay your hand on her arm or leg to let her know you are focused completely on her. It makes her feel that she is worth your time and attention.

Do thing with her that she wants to do. She goes with you to sporting events, the latest action flicks, your sports bars, your greasy restaurants. Go with her where she wants. See a movie she wants to see. Maybe *gasp* get dressed up and go to a nice restaurant. Go for a quite walk in a park, by the lake, in a flower garden. During this time, turn your cell phone off, or on silent, hold her hand, look at her. Listen to what she says, and reply in full sentences instead of monosyllable words.

Compliment her, but don’t over do it. Don’t use the standard, “you are hot” or other cheesy lines. Pick out something specific. If you watch her get ready, see what she spends the most time working on, and compliment that. Compliment her hair, shoes, clothes. Tell her she is beautiful. Look in her eyes when you say this and maintain eye contact. Never complain about how long it takes her to get ready. She is doing it for you.

Having other female friends is not necessarily a no-no, but if you do have any make sure your woman knows about them. If they want to meet for dinner/lunch, always, always, always make sure your woman is invited. This is a touchy subject, some women want no other woman talking to her man, others don’t mind as long as they are included in every aspect of your friendship as well.

If anything is remembered from reading this, remember this. When you have a woman, and she is everything to you, make sure she knows it. Don’t take her for granted, cause somebody else out there will show her what you can’t, and you will be without your everything.









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OMGosh Beautiful Girl going into my Pad

Hello dear readers of the Real Love Doctor's Blog, A long absence from the doctor eh?

not to worry even though I'm Busy I still replied to most of your emails dear fans.

and today the clinic once again opens from a dear guy who has a troubling yet funny love letter for us today. read on and be amazed at what is he up to now.

This is the Real Love Doctor coming in and helping out relationship problems.

The letter goes down bellow;

"ei mac,


long time no see in your clinic huh, love doctor lol.anyways i have read and followed some of the steps to date a girl from here, and this comming weekend a very beautiful and cute girl will be going into my place, what shall i do? i'm sacred as hell and i'm a newbie. any tips???


from,

decent guy but semi-kinky"


Hello there decent guy [but semi-kinky] I somewhat find that contradictingly funny, your name and all but first I would like to congratulate you on having a date and with a beautiful girl at that and straight into your pad. A big WOW for your achievement.

Now that you got the girl going to your place here's my advice and tip for you. This are the general 10 when having a woman in your house should be.


1. Since the girl agreed and trust you enough that she's even willing to spend time right there and then in your pad it's a good sign! Why? because she notices you and eventually started to like you and feel comfortable with you, so don't try to destroy that little established trust that you so faithfully earned.

2. Your going to spend a few hours with her so why not plan out what you want to do this week end now! It could either be a movie through top DVD's or a cooking spree and lot's of table talk.

3. If you prefer movies, then decide what to rent. girls are suckers for love related flicks or cute animal flicks. Just don't rent out animated stuffs or you will lose your manly appeal, also avoid slasher or teen bop flicks, they suck dude.

4. Prepare the place, set an atmosphere, clean it a little. Remember Grooming?

5. Put up and air freshener or something nice like scented candles.

6. unto your personality, don't be nervous be spontaneous enough and stay calm as much as possible.

7. Keep the lady entertain and when she allows it she might be touchy in a few hours or so and hugs will be there, but if it won't come don't force it. If you know your law, there is a term called rape.

8. Avoid long void silence, always talk, when watching a movie, comment in every nice scenes and tell stories.

9. Don't come into her too hard, you will regret it, be smooth and relax and she'll reply in a soft way.

10. Smile and act like the king of your place, this boost of confidence knowing you are in your territory will be sexy for the girl.



Well there you have it mate, enjoy the weekend and I hope you will be successful with this one, remember a happy relationships starts with communication and a lot of attention, so in the stage you are now I won't be surprised that anytime soon both you and this girl will be hitched.

Till next time, keep the letters pouring and enjoy the Real Love Doctor Clinic









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Blinded by love, Fooled by trust and devastated by lie.~KC's Love Story

Today we will be reading a sad but true LOVE story from our real love doctor's clinic avid fan and reader KC, I will post my comment on this one soon, for now let us all sit back and relax as We read on a tragic Love Story

Blinded by love, Fooled by trust and devastated by lie.

It was the last day of class before the Christmas break starts five years ago. Not much to do at school that day so me and my college buddies decided to go to the Mall. After a tiring mall tour my pals decided to head back to school play computer games at some rentals. We’re kinna board so we agreed on chatting to find some girl for fun. So chat, chat, chat until I hit a girl named “chrissie” she’s from the province. So I got her number so the communicating starts till we became “we”. Having a long distance relationship is very hard but we were able to surpass its difficulty. From time to time her family visits our city on a work related or a family trip and whenever opportunity comes we spend time together. After she graduated from college she went to the city to work. We meet almost everyday had a lot of fun and love, and everything is so perfect, she is everything to me. We talked about our future, our plans, getting married, having a baby, house, cars, business etc. But every relationship have its up and downs, we manage to get through it. Until the time came to the point that there is no more spark anymore.

I thought that starting over again could bring the spark of love back. June this year, 5 days before our Monthsary I decided to broke up with her. My plan was to broke up with her then come back to her a day before our Monthsary. But to my surprise, when I texted her the day before our Monthsary she told me that she already have a “guy”. My whole world fucking collapsed. My dreams are shattered. Could not believe a shit. She told me that the day after I broke they became them. She told me that the guy was a former officemate of her officemates right now. He was introduced to her at a group gimmick by her close officemates whom btw im friends with. Together with her officemate they hang out 3 times in a gimmick.

Then the pieces of the puzzle came to me. As far as I can remember, there is one time that she told me that she now going home (which she doesn’t usually do.) The next day when I came to their office I browse her camera and saw a picture of a guy close to her with his hands almost around her shoulder. So I ask her who that guy is, she told me that it’s a friend of her officemate and about to leave the country 2 months. And one of her officemates slipped saying that they were at a gimmick yesterday. Fully trusting her, I just let it off. But it was a mistake.

Our five years relationship was erased by one day. She told me that the day after we broke up the guy called her officemate about some stuff and she contacted the guy because she was so desperate. Later that evening they met and that’s the time that they became them. And I figured out that the 2 months that she’s talking about the leaving the country is actually 2 years for the guy is currently in his second course as a nursing. He’s graduating this school year and he’ll have to take the board for another year. That makes it 2 years before going in to abroad.


Weeks passed and I am so down, could not believe that a nice girl like her could do such things. She told me that im so confident that I think she can’t find another man but what I told her was I’m not confident, I just trust her. So much trust in her that she does the things that she doesn’t want me to do. And look what I’ve got in return.

I was affected by this big time. As in big time! I thought she’s the one and I want her to be the one. But it all turns out to be that we have to go separate ways.
I was blinded by love, fooled by trust and devastated by lie.

Although it brings a lot of pain to me, I guess it’s a blessing in disguised. I don’t know how long she will “hide/cheat/lie” if I didn’t broke up with her. Well at least now I’m doing things I wasn’t able to do when we were together. I guess what happened to me will just be charged to my experience. And the next time ill have another relationship, I know what to do. Learn from the past and move forward.

Trials makes you strong, mistakes makes you correct what is wrong. ...And life goes on.


-kc








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A love story to share - To all the girls I loved Before!

A love story to share - To all the girls I loved Before!

Good day avid readers and my small but loyal fan base for the Real Love Doctor Site! Today we will tackle on something different, we will read a letter from an avid fan with the name of DEATH ZERO. He will be sharing a short story for today about his past love life, the girls he knew and loved before and all the relationships to be that just didn't happen. I enjoyed reading it and it's a bit bunchy but if you have time it will be worth a while to read.

You too can participate in the sharing or asking of questions regarding love, life and relationships, so email me or write a comment and be heard by our loyal fan base here in
the Real Love Doctor's Clinic.

Here is his letter.

"
ei guys wanna share some of my on-going story and i hope the DOC post it in the BLOG and give some comments so that other bloggers and viewers may learn a lesson..

To The Moon And Back (and confuse a bit)
by: deathzero23

puppy love is not true love

I know i've been in love before and again..Yeah, I had my first serious relationship wayback at 3rd Year highschool and we started as best friends..A good foundation to start. And a good pattern developed into love. Yeah all are first times, like the first time i admit my true feelings in the face of the girl, prove my cleanest intentions, talked to her parents, first date, first kiss (yeah everykind of kisses hehehe), first touch, first score, etc. you named it, it's all there. But things got sour after highschool days..Yeah college days are crucial in terms of handling precious time.

I know at first before we pledge our love together (ahem i remember Edgar Mortiz' classic song My Pledge of Love Cannot be Broken LOL!) that we have this one difference. RELIGION. She's a catholic-convert-to-born again and I'm a pure Catholic. I know it will be a future problem but i neglected it just to have a serious Relationship. Then I paid the price, I lost her. But still i thank GOD for it. I thank God for making RELIGION is the cause of our break-up and not some 3rd party which is very painful. And i walked and wandered around soul-searching. Till i found this cute girl...

Yeah we've met in the university and we're classmates. College days. We have so many similaraties from A to Z. Yeah same pattern happened, Best friends turn lovers. The catch is By that time that we were friends, she have a BF but i'm at the right time since their relationship is starting to fall apart. I'm there to catch her fall. And completed her life...I think.

Since she transfered to other school then she got her first failing grade (yeah she's a genius student and tasted her first defeat), She got very busy and busy and busy. Her craving to get back at the top caused our nearing break-up...Adding to my INJURY she got a guy..yeah 3rd party which i didn't expect. She didn't told beforehand about this guy. She hid it from me. And just waited for me to find out for myself..I never really expect such kind girl to turned like that...and i hate what she did...she tried approaching me several times but i neglected it everytime. My reason? it's simple, the DAMAGE has been done so what to explain and to expect? nothing....And she got tired chasing me from e-mail, SMS and Friendster.

After that i made a hiatus from having serious relationships almost 4 years i think...i concentrated on studying hard...Still i thank GOD for this reason of our break-up happen earlier before i got enrolled in my thesis subject. Imagine the HUGE DAMAGE if the break-up happen during my thesis. It will be more than hell to suffer...right?

yeah i got graduated and got a job, still single and enjoying life, like spend money on stuffs, eat and drink, play videogames, enjoying my liberty. but something happened, i've met a girl.....

I know i've been in love before. I know how it feels from being loved, to be in love and being left and hurt...I'm not saying i love this new girl. We're having constant communication thru SMS, we see each other if time permits us. I can say that I LIKE HER. She's cute, kind, deep, thoughful, etc. although she believes in paranormals and tarrot cards and may some of you called it weird but hey i can still ride on it. But.... She's very career-driven girl. She's a Dean's Lister in college, want to earn big bucks early, taking a review school after work, and probably take board exams in January next year.

I'm in all total support for her. everytime she feels tired from such multi-tasking activities, having pressure problems and stuffs, I'm there to make her smile, feel happy, laugh, inspired and make her spirits up. And she's very thankful about it. Thankful to the point that she feels guilty for taking up my time just to be with her. But i told her not to worry and it's fine for me and it's true.

avoid conflicts with her family to avoid this!^^^^^

She's a Fil-Chinese and i know such cultural differences may clash. Not to her but her parents. She's a Fil-Chinese alright but she's more of 80% PINOY in her attitude so no problem. But her parents is what bothers me. I know i've been there before but what is happening to me?

I always say to myself that i like her time and time again. But Is it the truth or am I just being CAUTIOUS due to my past heartaches? Again I've been there Before but i feel something is different within me.

Up to now, we still talked and cherish every conversation we have. And if I managed to have a date with her, I always make it a special moment never to forget for her. I'm stopping the story for now since i have nothing to add...I hope the readers never got tired reading this and i hope some of you learned a lesson at least a bit.

Whaddya Say DOC MAC?"

"



As all can see, I will never ever edit your letters, so what ever came to my mail box, I will post it as is.

To Death Zero, thanks for this very informative and funny side of your life and love relationships. I will be monitoring your stories as always and will provide tips for you to make you more appealing to the women that you like, for now your story is nice and it showed me your nice strong character to move on from one failed relationships by making your chin-up and face the world. That is truly a manly character for you!


Good day, love doctor out for the day!

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Help my Affair with a married guy goes astray! Ask the Real love doctor and the love doctor answers

Help my Affair with a married guy goes astray! Ask the Real love doctor and the love doctor answers

Hello readers and friends, another good day for Ask the real love doctor and the love doctor answer segment isn't it? So to kick start our weekly routine let me introduce to you a good reader of ours who has been online and reading our lovely site since the first week of our existence. Let's all hide her in the name of Jenny, and Jenny has this email which I would like to give light on today:

the deadly kiss of death

" dear love doctor;

gud day, how's things going? i would like 2 ask you sumthing today that has been bothering me for a long time now. i have a relationship with a married man, i know that it is not right, but i am also not that religious so i just go with my feelings for him, he is my superbisor at our office, we have been on for more than two years, and after all those years he is thinking on breaking up with me 2 be with his family. i am broken hearted, please advice me o how to forget him. thanks will be emailing you soon, thank you very much love doctor

jenny"


Hello Jenny. To tell you something about Jenny, she is a 22 year old Filipina and currently working in a small office in Manila. She has emailed me 4x now and this time after much plea, I was able to convince her to have her letter to me be put in public so I can answer them and help many.

To answer your question ms.Jenny, I will gave you two points first okay?

Point

1. Trying to win a married person love is wrong! which ever you look at it, in society norms, in religion [even if you are not that religious] in the law and in the eyes of the family of that person. I think you are now not blinded to the fact that even you think that what you two just did is really wrong.

2. At these kind of illegal relationships, it is always the women that suffers, the wife and the mistress, and most of the time the men always came out like champions achieving trophies.


So with these two points I put out I hope you are brought back into reality and not to be put into the same dark situation that you are in now. Just be prepared because a lot of secrets from the past seems and most often always do come back to haunt you in the near future. You are still young. I know you will meet someone in the near future that will surely love and take good care of you in a nice loving relationship. For now to avoid him I will give you some tips.

no point in arguing

1. Try to find a job that will put you far away from him, by this what I mean is, the distant you are with him, the faster you will forget, also try not to resign from your work if your next job is still not secure.

2. Be busy with daily activities or stuff that will eat up most of your time- this is good practice if you are trying to forget someone or curing a heart ache - just avoid over eating and watch out for over dating! A clean fun activity will do like going back to your old town for a breather or a short vacation.

3. Try to heal the wound in your heart and not just by forcing your self to new man, the key here is to wait.


Got the 3 tips? Well Just like anything else I can only give out advices, the one who will be doing the actions is you. I hope ladies will learn from endless shocking and always ending up losing stories of countless women falling in love with married men and ending up with the wrong relationship partners. There is someone for everyone, keep that in mind, and that his wife is that someone for him and you just can't share.


Till next time for our updates, be sure to tune in for tips, advices and anything in general about Real Love, life and relationships 101 with your host The real love doctor Mac!

Peace.

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Great Gift Ideas for Your Loved One #2

Great Gift Ideas for Your Loved One #2

The Real Love Doctor Gift Ideas Number 2

Hello readers and avid letter senders, before I hit another Ask the Love Doctor about love, life and relationships segment, I will give out another tips and tricks to all of you out there with partners or even just a loved one alike.

Last time out we talked about giving them some out of town or out of the country tickets beneath their pillows or enclosed in a letter of appreciation, I can only imagine the happiness one will feel to uncover that kind of gift! if you really feel a special connection with someone, or if you have fallen deeply in love with someone, many times you have gone into thinking if there are stuff you can personally give to that special someone that you love. Most of the time you just ran out of great gift ideas right? Never fear just return here once so often and the love doctor will show you great gift ideas all the time.

For today we go physical and we will tackle on the one thing that keeps everybody feel connected to the person they love, and that is the sense of touch! What else is there to boost the senses than a good touchy and relaxing back rub or better known as the back massage!

be gentle

Every one is stressed nowadays, with all the bustling of city life and family life, so if you and your partner do get a chance to be sitting or lying away somewhere comfortable, just shock them and start giving them a soft massage on their backs! This will work wonders on the relationship and will surely make your partner appreciative of this special gift that you have offered to them.

To get you going, I have my own techniques in doing a back rub, but for now you just need to know the general steps and info. More on back massages soon! Enjoy the info below

Setting the mood:

Before giving a massage, let the person take a hot bath or shower. This will help initiate the relaxation process. Light some aroma candles and play some soothing music to set the mood.

Massage Steps:

1: Lie the person face down on a flat, comfortable surface, such as a floor mat or firm bed.
2: Stand by his/her side, and place one hand on the lower back and one hand between the shoulder blades, over the heart.
3: Apply thumb pressure on both sides of the spine simultaneously and warm up the back. First start at the lower back and knead with your thumbs up gently to the neck area.
4: Apply massage oil with a smooth, delicate stroke. With one long stroke, slide your palms on either side of the spine going downwards to the pelvis.
5: Continue gliding your hands on other parts of the back and then on both sides of the neck to the base of the head.
6: Massage the lower back area and move up slowly to the shoulders. Place the first and index fingers of each hand on either side of the spine. Make rhythmic, overlapping movements with the fingers all the way down the back.
7: Apply pressure as if you are kneading, on the muscular areas at the top of the shoulders and the mid-back area.
8: Using your fingers, apply pressure on areas that feel tight or hard, called as knots.
9: Perform circular massage strokes, clockwise and anti-clockwise with your fingertips on the muscles close to the spine and around the shoulder blades.
10: Then gently rotate the arms, one at a time, for proper blood flow.

do em often too!

Massage Tips & Warnings
Avoid working directly on the spine. When massaging near the spine, use extremely gentle strokes without any pressure. Massage on either side of the spine instead.
When massaging, use slow movements for a soothing and calming effect, and fast movements for a stimulating effect.
Do not massage on broken skin, blisters or open areas, where there is a possibility of infection.
Make massage a relaxing experience, and do not hurry things.


Till next time!

The Real Love Doctor Signing out




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The Real deal about Real Love by the Real Love Doc himself!

The Real deal about Real Love by the Real Love Doc himself!

What is real love?


Hello once again my good readers, it's been a few days since you last heard from the real love doctor eh? Well I have been pretty busy up late trying to promote the blog to the widest audience possible, also I am acquiring about a dozen letters already about love, life and relationships advice and I'm doing the best I can to get them all answered. Okay to move on, I would like to thank to all of you who started to comment here, although I would really love it if you can post a name or a nickname to your comments as being called "anonymous" seems to be getting old.

I have been asked many times about my views about real love, how did someone like me became a doctor of Real Love, well to be honest to you, I don't hold any doctorate degree or any real love diplomas, I simply just happen to know the ins and outs of Real Love. Many of us would get stuck and face a big wall when it comes to love, what more so if it is real love right? So to clearly gave you my beloved readers a good insight about real love I will quote a lot of stuff for today.

a hug of real love

There are just too many lines of words describing real love, some were even made into songs, all of the above have one thing in common though and I will show it to you at the near end of my post, for now let's read some of the famous lines about real love.




Love is patient, love is kind...

Love is patient, and love is kind,
it is not jealous or prideful
love is not rude,
it is not selfish,
it is never angry, it is not happy with evil,
love is not happy with lies, but rejoices in the truth.

Love never gives up,
love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things.

Love never fails.

God is love.

source: the bible



Everything is clearer when you're in love.
Guilt for being rich, and guilt thinking that perhaps love and peace isn't enough and you have to go and get shot or something.
If someone thinks that love and peace is a cliche that must have been left behind in the Sixties, that's his problem. Love and peace are eternal.
All you need is love

source: john Lennon


Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.

source:Lao Tzu


There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.

Source: Mother Teresa


“The best smell in the world is that man that you love.”

source:Jennifer Aniston


I believe the key to happiness is: someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to.

source:Elvis Presley

the king of real love?

As We have read along some of the quotes of famous people around the course of history, many describe love as something important and as a need, well they become famous but does that give them enough authority? We have quoted the bible, but not all really think it has authority to tell what is love, so who do you really believe when it comes to telling you what real love is? Will you believe what a real love doctor have to say about love? If you are intrigue and ready to hear my say on the issue of real love then read below now.


"For me real love is just not a need to be love but unconditional love, I got this thing which pretty much sums up my idea about real love:
"Real love isn’t "I love you if you love me", that’s worldly love.
Real love is "I love you no matter if you love me or not". Real
love just loves, and hopes the best for the other, and does whatever
they can for the happiness of someone else rather than themselves."

real love is everywhere, even for pets

Yes many will say "hey that is foolish and loving blindly" well for me that ain't the case, you see if you respect the authorities like your government, that is already showing real love for your country, if you care for your spouse or partner that you sacrifice a few minutes everyday to comfort them and hug them to make them feel better that is already real love, if you can take time to bath your dog because you don't want him to stink or catch fleas then you are genuinely loving your dog. All of this self less acts of love is for me real love. So my tips, the next time you truly say I love you to your partner or love one, consider first the things you did the day before or the things you were planning to do for the days ahead, if you think you have unconditional love in your radar, then congrats you have found real love."

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How to start a conversation- Ask The love Doctor Mac and Love doctor Mac Answers!

How to start a conversation- Ask The love Doctor Mac and Love doctor Mac Answers!

Hello and Good day to all my avid readers, The love doctor is getting much love on our column and segments here at the Love, Life and Relationship blogs most noted is the Ask Doctor Mac and Doctor Mac answers! So far I got an overwhelming pour of letters to just about everywhere through emails, comments and even text messages. Nice very nice indeed. So keep em letters and inquiries coming. The Love Doctor is more happy to help!


Anonymous said...

ei there, can you teach us some approach or how to start a convo to some random cute/attractive/prospect girl? Not pick up line ah. For example in a PUV, MRT or waiting for the bus.

-thanks

August 18, 2007 9:50 PM


So we have someone here who is a bit shy in the outside but in the inside is burning with passion to start a conversation with a girl he mets at random places. To start with, I hope you did a good job and have read my grooming tips early on my previous post! if not you can read it again here---->GROOMING!

I can offer some tips below, but the whole entire process still depends on the way you handle yourself, and of course the degree of interest you can muster out of the girl you have set your targets on. For more on women body languages just stay tune and we will surely discuss it one of these days in our Love, life and relationships segments in the coming days.

key is smile!

general tips:

1. be decent enough! - no girl at her right mind will talk to a dirty dressed and sex maniac looking guy! so always dress well and be clean looking, you will never know when or where you might see the girl of your dreams maybe, she may be walking around your corner one of these days!

2. sport that killer smile! - when I say killer smile I don't mean a smile that will knock her off the train! just smile naturally and avoid the plastic looking ones like you see at the faces of celebrities. Be genuine enough and always practice that "U" shaped lips and face in front of a mirror. Better yet avoid thinking LUSTFUL things in your head to avoid that dreadful "rapist smile" off your face! Be natural and smile at happy thoughts like you are going to date her!

3. killer punch lines! - this may sound too cheesy and some may tell you they won't work, but I can vouch for you that they do! words like "Hey your body is a wonderland, and I'll change my name to Alice!" and "I won't buy you a drink ever, because you're a stranger and I don't buy drinks to strangers" works my friend! These punch lines when delivered well will make the girl smile and will loosen up the tension between the two of you. Normally we get nervous in approaching someone, also if the girl knew you are going to approach her, she too will be tense and nervous and most of time won't know what to do next. Punch lines erases all of that. Think of it as a great title on a silly website, it gets you to read the content doesn't it? I will provide some killer punchlines that have worked for me through the years, with them came the technique and proper executions that I will soon tell all of you my avid readers of this Love, Life and relationship blog! Stay tune in future posts!

4. Be fluid! - once you and the girl exchanges smile then it's time to show her the deeper you. Act and be intelligent, if you're not that intelligent at least cover it with wittiness! Talk about relevant topics usually ranging from the place that you met. "Boy is today hot! I have showered twice this morning and I still feel icky!" or "It took me an hour the last time I tried picking a taxi in this spot, silly me, I didn't notice the preying traffic enforcer a few meters behind my back" Conversation like this make things go fluid and at ease.



So there you have it the early spot on stuff to do to get the girl talking back to you. Remember there are many factors regarding this topic, but I will provide infos as soon as I can, also note that I didn't include how to get the girls number or give away your number right? This issue is a different story by itself and I will focus on it soon in a future post. So for now, practice practice!

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Ask the Love Doctor/ Love Doctor Mac answers!

Another fine day to all of you! We're back with our new letter for the week. I choose this letter out of about 6 because I was encouraging folks to comment and join in the discussions, So this guy did just that! and because He did He will get Love, Life and Relationships 101 tips from the Love Doc. Here's his letter:

"got a big problem hir guyz just dont know what 2 do anymore im just starting to dislike my girl im just tired of her trips and attitude but damn i just cant leave her it fells like im in hell w/o her my best budd tells me that this the point were in we both need space but we both cant give it to each other for an unknown reason hope you could give some tips i have many more to say.... till next time - LuNaTiV_0829"

Hello there LunaTiv, Firstly I would like to welcome you in here and thank you so much for the courage to come out in the open and tell the Love Doctor about your relationship problems. I will waste no time in giving you a sound advice for today okay? But the results is still really up for you to achieve. So with out further ado some tips from your in-house Love Doctor!

not talking?

Suggestions:

1.Communicate!- Early part of your relationship with your girl I'm betting that both of you were heavy chatters right? Talking about each others life, experiences and mainly topics to get to know each other the better. Why not do it all over again? This time around talk about future plans or new found interests between the both of you. The chain in a good relationship is good over all communication! So take time, have a seat in a park or in a place where both of you will share a minimum of an hour a day to just talk! Talk a lot. I do this too with my girl, we chat on coffee and we end up laughing our ass off always and I always look forward to her nice coffee making skills in the morning and in the afternoon. For something new, never take the moment conversation out of the coffee talk, What I mean is, what is it that you and her talking for that talk moment stays during that time and never strays to another time of day or the next hours after your chatter with her. We always talk about politics and stuff in the news for example, then after the coffee talk, we never talk about it again till the next time we sit and have coffee again!


2.Bond like glue!- Most often times relationships and love goes stale because the lack of bonding, most times too we just can't seem to take the other partner's trips or likes as what you said in your letter... "im just starting to dislike my girl im just tired of her trips and attitude"... this comment came from someone who never bonded with his/her partner. The stuff that binds us in a good relationship is love right? But if Love goes wrong and boring the foundation or "glue" will not be strong to keep things in tack. That is why a good bonding trip should happen. First talk to each other and plan a certain activity that the 2 of you will surely enjoy! Most women like to see nature or travel to places. So if you can afford a trip around Asia go on travel, [visit here for an Asian Travel Guide!] or better yet have a cheap adventure and drive around the next town and see places you too have never been. The misadventures and the bondness these trips can bring will do wonders for the relationships and it will save it! Remember the key here is to have an activity that both of you enjoy, a guarantee success of good lovers bonding in a happy event is what I promise you if you will be able to pull this one off.


So before you decide on harsh decisions and that dreadful "NEED SPACE" excuse, why not try the 2 tips I did. I am hoping that my 2 easy tips will save your lost interest to your girl, remember it was you the guy who came into the life of your girlfriends, bother the living hell out of them and it is not just right to leave them just then and there, make an effort to be in love with her again just like the effort you did a while ago in making her love you back!

P.S.

"we both cant give it to each other for an unknown reason hope you could give some tips i have many more to say"

Dude I'm no psychic, just tell me the whole thing and we will discuss it here okay?

goodluck!



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Seduction Tips #2 Clothes

Seduction Tips #2 Clothes

Clothing for men

In a relationship to be? Love at first glance? Already started dating? Let the Real love doctor help you on this matter.

Hello readers and once again good day to all. Another busy day in the clinic and lately I have a surge of emails pouring in. To those who mailed, don't you guys worry, the love doctor is here to answer your relationship, love and life inquiries even if it takes me a long life time to do all of it! So unto our next seduction tip. Clothing for men!

On our first tip on grooming we specifically point out the importance of clean decent clothes to be worn not only at work but on a daily basis when you leave the house. Why? Because we can't be too sure if Mr. Right for me or The Girl of your dreams might suddenly pop up out of nowhere. The next topic is clothing style for men. Yes clothes, it's a basic necessity of our everyday life so why not add it to your appeal to women. If your middle aged or even in the late teens, don't you think its time to rid of the "youngsters look" all in all? What I mean is the hip-hop culture or the emotional punk rocker days must be left behind! But if you prefer to remain in these so called years then I can't force you to totally commit and do a transformation. One thing I learned after college is when I rid of my rocker look, more women came up to me and I started to feel confident too. I don't have the weird looks I use to get at trains and subways when I do public transport, I started to do my own individual style of wearing my favorite clothes. Yep it is still on, individuality is still king in the modern world, but you have to make sure your individuality taste is still in the norm. Why? because in general most of the population is in the norm, it's basic marketing sense that if you sell to the mass general public that you tend to grab the big sales and these sales means a lot of eyes of women that will find you attractive.

simple yet elegant is still trendy

Clothes if you are already dating or in a great relationship not only projects your image, but along with your partner, the two of you will show to the world to what type of a couple are you. Decent formal, clean pressed clothes will tell the public that both of you may have stable jobs or that you both came from well brought up family, while rugged and dirty looking "drags" will convey a sense of rebellion or worse lower status in the society, so you better be careful in what you wear so to not to shame your partner. It's viral if you don't know yet, if your partner dresses decently, you will somehow get infected and pretty soon your preference on clothing is due to change to decency too. That's the good in a well developed relationship.

elmo says you don't have to be emo anymore

different styles of clothing to attract varies from one person to another depending on the individual's height and weight. It's just basic common sense that is needed to avoid the pitfalls of bad clothing. For example, wearing dress shoes and black socks on running shorts or cargo shorts make you look like a grandpa disaster [what a term!] and having to wear tennis shoes on corporate wear is somewhat dumb! Every clothing has it's own do's and don'ts but the thing that stands out the most is COLOR!. Color blending is my term on this one, if you're dark toned in skin, then it is adviceable to avoid pastel colors and neon colors, they will surely make you look like a lollipop holder or a tootsie roll on crack, instead go with the near shades of black and white to grey and lightly toned colors of the rainbow. When I say rainbow, the basic colors or elementary colors compromising the spectrum is just made up with the Red, Blue and Green, wear light versions of these colors to help promote eye rest when people stare at you. If you are whiter in complexion like me, then pretty much all colors are in favor for you to wear. Just make sure to always wear the basic colors or singled color shirts because they tend to bring more attention that those flowery or graffiti types, worse are the stripes [we ain't no zebra's! stripes only works if your super thin or super fat or super short or super tall] Stripes are good too sometimes and on ocassions but I don't recommend them to be worn often.

we zebras should watch out for em lions

The key ingredient here is simplicity. A simple colored clothing when a catchy small graphics or a tag line is enough to draw attention. Don't forget once you got that female looking at you to smile and be your at your best confidence, because this is your first step in getting to know her. You have already done the part of selling your biggest advertisement, your self and your clothes.
Clothes need not be expensive to stand out, it just have to be worn properly and appeal to more people together with your self. You must be confident enough to wear a certain clothes for it's seduction magic to work. With this tip number 2 on relationship, love and life advices I can guarantee a few glances from the opposite sex coming your way!

till next time avid readers good day
Love doctor Mac signing off!



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Gift Ideas #1

Gift Ideas #1

For Relationship and Love Spicer from the Love Doctor himself!

Hello avid readers and good day to all of ya! One thing I noticed from our site is the lack of comments, come on guys move out of the shadows and start talking, I receive about a thousand page views a day from around 60-70 viewers all around the globe yet no one even dare chatters? Well how about those who knew me well to come out and chat the way in the comments box, yes if you happen not to find it , it's way below after each post.

Well I received an email last night, even though it can be categorized as a "Ask the Love Doctor" or a question for me , I decided to just let it slide since the mailer doesn't want to be named and for obvious reasons that her email is just a one liner. Yep our letter sender is a female, I guess my post about the tips on finding a few good men really pays off! She was just asking around and in one short sentence as me if what is it that I think is a good gift idea for her boyfriend, this came after her year long relationship with her current boyfriend, she just about ran out of good ideas. Girl if in a year you have gave your guy about more than a dozen gifts or an average of more than twice a month, then I will tel you frankly that you have over done it, maybe that's why you are just about to ran out of gift ideas to gave to him because you plainly just about gave him everything!

remember you ain't santa!

This issue of gift giving will be tackled in detailed soon in our upcoming Love and Relationship tips and advices, for now I will just answer the girls' inquiry.

Simple enough there are limitless gifts to give to your loved one and you bet I can't count them all, but the usual chocolates and letters and flowers seems to be redundant right? Then why not go to the extreme! Yes to the extreme! So my gift giving ideas will be extreme in nature and will always focus on the stuff that your lover might not expect at anytime in your relationship, may it be early on or later on.

For starters I assume a one year relationship is somehow long enough for the two lovers to be intimate to each other and the trust should be now flowing, so a trip to another town, city or even another country can be very bonding to both of you! Why not go to your travel agent and inquire about pricing of a certain country [only if you have enough and can afford!], or if better yet you can go check this site and visit ASIA!!! ---> http://asiantravelguide.blogspot.com <--- seriously once I slid a travel map of an out of town adventure full with iterenary and to do list on a brown envelope in one of my past girlfriend, to my surprised she looked so shocked and can't stopped kissing me for hours. So the trip happened after months of planning we really go on an adventure in one of the secluded Island of the Philippines, and it was the blast!

So for a gift idea I recommend you do something like what I did before, be creative and do it at your own way, I can only suggest the tips and advice but the implementation and tasks is still in your hands!


Till next time CHOW!!!
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