Thursday, May 15, 2008

ReLaTiOnShIp 101

1. A man won't let go if he really

loves you.

Do not hold on to someone who has let

go of you. He does not love you and

does not value having you. Believe me,

he will not let go if he really loves

you. There is another reason he is not

willing to tell.

2. Do not look for reasons why he

ended the relationship.

There is only one reason why he ended

your relationship. He just does not

love you. Do not waste your time

thinking of reasons or what you should

have done. Move on and be open to a

man who will truly love you.

3. Do not get hung up on your past.

Do not nag or distrust your current

boyfriend just because your ex hurt

you. Do not treat him or the

relationship the same way. Do not

compare. He will not react the same

way as your ex. Do not be worried that

your simple mistakes will cause him to

look for another girl. What happened

with your ex was not your fault. It

was not because you didn't guard him

enough or you didn't make him happy


4. Do not look into images.

How many times have you met a girl who

didn't have the best image in school

or at the office, but you get to know

the girl and found out she was

actually extremely nice? Do not rely

on images. Oftentimes, it is far from

reality. Do not fear men just because

your "supposedly" perfect ex-boyfriend

mistreated you.

5. Always have your own set of rules.

Set your limits on how far you'd go

for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give

and do everything as long as it's

worth it. And it's worth it if the guy

is treating you right.

6. Do not be scared to lose him.

Don't be scared that he'll break up

with you. Once you are afraid of

losing him, you easily can be taken

advantage. Be strong and if something

is unacceptable, do not accept it and

speak up.

7. Avoid calling your guy.

It's a guy thing. The relationship

will definitely be better if it's the

guy who's calling, not the girl. He

will get tired of you if you keep on

calling. He will lose interest and

challenge. More

so, he will get annoyed. But it's a

girl thing also that your fingers get

too itchy until you dial his number.

But avoid as much as possible. Call

only if really needed (like checking

if your suspicions are reasonable).

8. There is a guy who will value you.

There is a guy out there who can make

you feel valued, appreciated, and

loved. And I mean, not just during

your first few weeks together. So

don't lose hope. Don't settle for a

lesbian if you are not attracted to

women. There is a man out there who

can love you like a girl can.

Also, do not believe him when he says

it's just the way he really is. He's

not the sweet or expressive-type.

Remember during your first few weeks

together? Where has that sweet guy

gone? He simply is not that into you


9. Always be the only one, no matter


Do not ever fall for a guy who has

another girl, be it his wife,

girlfriend, or any girl that he says

he just can't get rid of for whatever

reason. If you truly believe that he

loves you and for some reason, he

can't leave or let go of another girl,

then you are no different from any

ordinary mistress.

10. He must respect you.

No matter how long the relationship

has been, he should always show

respect towards you.

11. If he fooled you, end it.

Philandering once is enough. You can

never trust nor respect the person


12. Never start a relationship the

wrong way.

Do not steal another girl's man, for

whatever reason. Nor should you enter

a relationship for the wrong reasons

(loneliness, on the rebound, getting

back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.)

it is bound not to last. You will only

end up wasting more years of your life.

13. Do not force yourself into a


Do not get into a relationship just

because your friends are getting

impatient with your dating escapades

and the one hasn't come yet.

Ever found yourself holding back because you're too proud?

I realized that pride would get me nowhere. You'll never get anywhere if you don't start somewhere. So swallow your pride. But what I failed to mention was that the absence of pride makes me feel so bare. Like I'm holding on to it for that just-in-case moment that I realize I just don't want to give it up--- just yet. Maybe until I realize and find the right reason for taking in my pride and as a result, would actually make me a better person. Maybe I'm still waiting for that "humbling experience" to happen. You know, the kind of experience that just makes you realize your flaws and that you have to change not for anyone but for yourself. Am I making any sense? Well my point is, I'm slowly but unsurely taking in my pride in hopes that by doing so, I'm becoming a more mature person, a braver being. I hope. But I think what I'm doing is a meaningful endeavor and maybe more because I think that person may be worth getting to know, may actually be worth my while. We'll see. So find a cause, something that you think is worth your while. And if it's a someone, you have master patience and ask yourself if he/she is worth knowing or talking to and that person would make you someone better. Cheesy, yes but hey that's the truth!:D I end this with a quote in my head:

" When you find someone who makes you smile, when you find someone who makes you learn to love, who makes you wake up to the reality of life, when you find someone who truly listens and shares what he thinks, when you find you want to spend every hour, every minute, every nanosecond with that person, keep him and if he's not yet yours, find him. Everything starts with that one step that makes all the difference in the world."

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Friday, May 2, 2008

Love, Love and More Love

Love Doctor Mac says a little about love

We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that
experience makes us feel completely alive. Where
every sense is heightened, every emotion is
magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and
we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a
moment, an hour, an afternoon. But that doesn't
diminish its value. Because we are left with
memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives.

1) Don't turn your back on love when it's already
in front of you, Don't drive it away from you,
because if you do, someday, you'll think again,
why you let love flew when it was there next to you.

2) In Love, think things first over if you're sure
about how you feel. Don't fall too hard not
knowing where you will stand, 'coz it will hurt
real badly if things don't go the way you want
them to be.

3) It's an irony to know that it takes hours for
someone to have guts to say "hi" to the one he
likes, days to admire, weeks to miss the person,
months to love, but just a blink of an eye to say

4) Go for the person who loves you. It is not
wrong to love someone who belongs to someone else,
but it is much better to love someone who could
also love you in return.

5) Love isn't something we hold, it is something
we set free. It's not something we just do, but
it's something we don't imagine it to be. Lastly,
it's not something we choose, it chooses us...

6) The scariest thing about falling in love is
getting hurt. The scariest thing about getting
hurt is not being able to love again. The scariest
thing about not loving again is being alone forever.

7) When you follow your heart, worry not where it
will lead you, for your heart knows the way. And
if you do get lost or reach a dead end, use your
head to lead you back home.

8) When you truly care for someone, you don't look
for faults, you don't look for answers, you don't
look for mistakes. Instead, you fight for the
mistakes, you accept the faults, and you overlook

9) It's better to lose your pride to the one you
love, than lose your loved one to your useless pride.

10) Love is ......... not its your fault ", but
"Im sorry ", not " where are you ? ", but " Im
here", not " how could you ? ", but " I
understand, not "I wish you were here ", but " Im
thankful you are ".

11) The beginning of love is to let those we love
be just themselves, and not twist with our own image.

Otherwise, we love only the reflection of
ourselves we find in them.

12) If a relationship is truly meant for you, your
love will find a way to make it happen, and God
will be there to make sure it will stay.

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